you'll understand why anon, sex

im looking for some sexual advice, hence the reasoning behind being anon, im embarrassed.

to be blunt, i struggle to get erections, and when i do i cant keep hold of it, this is very frustrating and is coming between me and my partner, shes understanding but at the same time i can see it gets to her, i know this is because of the m.s because i never had problems before, what i dont know however is if its damage or if its due to stress, i do think of this alot, i dont know if thats the cause of it.

what im looking for is to see if there are any guys with m.s going through what i am going through, if so did you manage to overcome it, will i get my libido back naturally, if not then what next, can anything be prescribed? who do i speak to? what do i do? i really need answers because i am far too young (mid 20’s) to be going through this.

thank you in advance

I think a lot of us guys suffer from this but it can be a bit embarrassing to talk about. I had exactly the same problem and try not to worry it can be sorted (well it worked for me).

Go to the doctors and tell them the problem and ask for Viagra. It should help

John

Hi

Well first of all get an appointment with a Urologist, through your doctor.

There are a number of options available to you, Cialis (vertion of Vigra but better), vacuum pump, or injections (it’s only a little prick), can’t resist that little pun.

Seriously though there is a lot that can be done.

I know it can be difficult but if you can time sex when you are not worn or fatigued.

A lot of spontinuaty is lost and a little more planning is needed and remember there is more than one way to skin a cat, perhaps a change of technique or toys may help.

The visit to the doctors and urologist can be embarrising but with this MS there are plenty of embarrising moments.

With the support of your partner/wife a good sex life can be yours.

If you would feel better about talking to someone you can PM me.

Ronin

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Last week - on this site - Ecklonia Cava was discussed. Apart from other benefits - it is also used for ED. lf you put Ecklonia Cava into the search space the posts will come up. Or just google it.

Hope this helps.

Hello.

I know that your question was aimed at the guys, but please if I may. There is known to almost always be a psychological emement to ED - even of there is a physical cause like MS - because anxieties arise as soon as you have your first experience of ED and the prospect of it happening again can be a self fulfilling prophecy. There is so much that can be done nowadays as the first few posts have suggested, so I would discuss it with physician/urologist. In the meantime, if you are still getting ‘morning rise’ and able to maintain an erection during masturbation then that is another sign that there may be a big psychological element to the ED.

I hope you don’t mind me butting in. Good luck.

Steffi

Hello anon, i know that your post was posted some time ago but realy hope that you read mine, firstly iwent through exactly the same problems as yourself and yes i have a very understanding partner so we went and seen a sexual psycologist and was given plenty advice ( all common knowledge stuff like) anyway i was put on Cialis 5mg daily so it cuts out the ‘ill just drop a viagra and ill be with you in half an hour’ business hahahahah , anyway that was some time ago and now i am struggling keeping an erection and consequently achieving orgasm. ITS DOING MY HEAD IN but g/friend is realy understanding and i allways make sure she does not go short if you get my meaning . The point i am getting at i guess is that most men suffer with sexual problems due to the ms and once it gets in your head that you have a problem it is realy hard to shift it , make more use of foreplay time and concentrate on pleasing your partner ratherthan yourself, hey listen i hope you have raed this post and get in touch if you want to chat or ask any advice … C

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Last week - on this site - Ecklonia Cava was discussed. Apart from other benefits - it is also used for ED. lf you put Ecklonia Cava into the search space the posts will come up. Or just google it.

Hope this helps.

[/quote] As l said previously - Just google Ecklonia Cava libido - lnteresting - could be the answer.

F.

Hi,

I’m okay because my wife doesn’t want it anymore anyway. lol. In seriousness though - I have MS but still want to feel like I’m sexually able - I use Viagra and a sex toy. Seems to work wonders for me. :slight_smile:

Hi,

Go to doctor and get prescription for Viagra or Ciallis. That sgould do the trick

Patrick.

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Hi It would be nice to see if “it” works, but after 10 months of my wife not being interested in “it” with me, I can’t b ar***.

It seems I’m not the only one whose wife doesn’t want to have sex. Is it because of my ms? We’ve been married for 37 years. Sex was infrequent, maybe once or twice a month, but I thought enjoyable for both of us.
Since ms she won’t even talk about it, just gets angry if I mention it. Happy to satisfy herself, though.
Says she loves me!

Posting anon in case she reads this (might be a good idea!)

Hi I have been married 23 yyears, she started before I was diagnosed but has been non existent since, same before she just got angry. I am sure she is seeing another person, but she denies it, she is so secretive

Gloworm

Sounds good advice - but still need supportive wife!

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from the ‘anon’ who uses a sex toy ;)…

I think lots of couples have the problem in sexual relationships even without MS. What I’m experiencing is that MS seems to make any cracks in a relationship feel more like big holes! Me and my wife have had problems but the MS just makes everything seem worse!

I tend to rely on porn these days just to test my sex drive. lol

But going back to the original post, a sex toy up the bottom if it stimulates your prostate gland can work wonders, once you get over the initial fear :wink:

I too have this problem, I have tried Viagra and cailis, both with the same effect they give me a stiffy for hours, but I cannot ejaculate, so it becomes painful to us both. and is no longer pleasurable. So any advice would be useful

I too have this problem, I have tried Viagra and cailis, both with the same effect they give me a stiffy for hours, but I cannot ejaculate, so it becomes painful to us both. and is no longer pleasurable. So any advice would be useful

bump

Try looking at www.lovehoney.com they have toys/aids etc…but also have very helpful reviews of things and advisors availible to help with any advise required. They can recommend alternative ways to have ‘fun’ for both parties.

bump

Same problems here.

After all attempts using injections/pump, I have settled for a £26 monthly bill for viagra.

Good luck!