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hi my name is rebecca and i am finding things pretty hard. my husband has ms. (ppms) and i am not dealing with it to well and it now getting to the ponts when i am taking out how i feel on him when i know its not his fault. i have a little who is 18 months old and i have alway wanted another baby but one of my husbands symptoms is he cant get an erection. he can if he takes a viara but just dont get to the point as in making a baby!! please tell me if there is anyway we can have a sex life with ms. i knpw this dont effort everyone but if it does please let me know as it driving me mad and i need someone to talk too. thanks … becca

Hi rebecca my name is julie my husband has ms not sure what type yet but find out soon.How long has your husband has ms are you under a neurologist? could any of his medication be causing erectile disfunction as sometimes it can? xx julie

Hi Becky my hubby has MS and has suffered for years with these problems, we have tried all sorts but viaraga seems to be the best. It is another thing that we all have to cope with, hang in there it is very difficult having to care for your partner. I often feel frustrated and start to raise my voice with hubby, I also struggle as my hubby was such an intelligent man but of late he really struggles with simple things, it is hard for him to accept and I hate seeing him struggle. You might benefit from some counselling, my doctor has told me it is available if required. take care Johanne

hi thanks he has known bout ms since november so not that long. but has had erection problem for 5 years plus. but the neurologist just he could of had it for up to 10 years!! it nice to see a commemt from people who understand my hubby told me to come on here to talk to people to see if it help. we hasnt even been married a year before we find he had ms. not that it makes a different i would of still married him. but it is hard as you will know. we have our ups and downs like all couples but he feels like a let down in the bedroom. but as much as i try and reasure him makes no differents. the chird we do have was from vigra but that was two years ago, when we didnt even tho he had ms!!! but we would like another baby. johanne do u have children? the promblem now is with sex a vigra works but dont get to the point if you know what i mean. thanks again rebecca

sorry i am rebecca just relised i am on my hubby acount .

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Hi rebecca my name is julie my husband has ms not sure what type yet but find out soon.How long has your husband has ms are you under a neurologist? could any of his medication be causing erectile disfunction as sometimes it can? xx julie

Julie and Rebecca,Hi there, this is the first blog I have been on about MS. I have had the desease for over 25 year. I am 47 and the sexual problems have been with me (off and on) for the lst 20 years. I say ‘off and on’ because sometimes I can get an erection and other time not. I find the time between ejaculating is getting longer and longer. The most time I have had is over a month. This is very frustrating for me and my wondferful wife. She can tell that I am frustrated.I have tried differnet types of viagra but they just don’t work for me. She has just about lost her sexual passion with me and trying to get her aroused is difficult. Maybe after a very (4 or 5 glasses of wine) she shows signs of being aroused. Not that I am saying get your partner drunk first !! Take it from me, your partner is fed up and frustrated as me. What I would recommend is to get your partners very relaxed and then woo him and get very sexy with him. But make sure you are relaxed too. This does work. Try it and let me know. Thanks Adam

I found i lost me self worth as the marriage had to change. Also that in caring for a partner’s needs i was loosing my own needs and concerns.

I;d say it;s important to be vocal about you challenges. Bottling up just lead me to reach out to someone else.

Advice from the posts above is helpful but missing from any booklets i read.

Thanks

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I have struggled with the lose of a relationship. Most of the lack of care back, at times i felt used. But keep forcing myself to try ans understand.

It has hurt self esteem, but slowly i am regaining myself and learning to care for myself too.

I wish u all the best, there are lots of us out there, and the frustraintion is really tough to handle.

Keep in touch.

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Just a note here in case this could help any of you.

My hubby became my carer and we lost our couple relationship.

I would advise anyone to think about getting carers in to do the more intimate chores, if possible.

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