Hello, I’m female, 33, and have absolutely no desire for sex. I’ve been with my partner for five years and before MS we had lots of sex. Now, nothing. I think that my lack of sex drive has knocked his confidence (I never come on to him). I’ve spoken to my neurologist and she said it could be a number of things - confidence in myself etc, but I’ve been working out and lost weight and look better than I ever have. I just don’t want it at all. I struggle with orgasm but to be honest I’m not bothered if I don’t come every time; I like the intimacy. How do you folks deal with it? Any girls out there taken viagra and found it helped? I took it once before MS and it definitely enhanced sex for me then… Any ideas anyone? This is driving me nuts! Thanks in advance
Well it takes 2 to tango as they say, - you may be ok with not orgasming - (could always do “when Harry met Sally”) but how about him? theres more than one way to turn him on. Maybe experiment. Sex toys? Communicate with him and find out what really turns him on…
You have probably read all this stuff already, but just in case.
He always comes when we do have sex. I feel that I’m the problem here
Your not bothered. He’s obviously having a great time. There’s no problem
Take a lesson from Sally!
I would advise you to try a good escort agency. I am sure that escorts in London will find you such a girl that you will have the desire to have sex again. It is also worth noting that most modern establishments even give girls a choice, whether it will be just an escort to some event or an escort with a continuation. It should be understood that the second option will always be paid many times more. It should also be remembered that whatever choice the employee chooses, no one will go against her will and will not force her to do anything. So, as they say, talk is talk, but the responsibility for his life is up to everyone.
Gosh LeeAnnet, what a helpful comment for your first post. You might not have noticed you replied to a three year old post.
We seem to be getting a lot of trolls over the last couple weeks. Did they change the security settings when they updated this site?
I have seen TV reports in US and articles that
- Viagra can help some ladies with their drive,
- The makers of Viagra and others are working hard to get a female verson of Viagra, yeah. I hope they hurry.
Talk to your partner about how you feel and ask him to explain how that makes him feel. Conversations regarding sex are very important because right now you both are losing a very important thing - intamacy. Your partner may have a tendency toward depression or even be Bi-Polar, both can kill your sex drive. On your part, be aware that if your illness moves to one side of your body more than the other, you can have difficulty having an orgasm because one side maybe highly sensitive to arousal, and especialy an orgasm. That happened to my wife, and we had to stop period. But she still liked to be held, and talked to about how we loved each other. I think this is important to both partners well being. When my partner came down with MS, I thought, “should I stay or should I go” - I decided to stay and help her and we got married. I was her carer through her illness, home Hospice and the end. Her three sones were total useless. If I had to do over again, I would. I know she would have done that for me.
I wish you both lots of luck and a blessings from the Creator.
Best Wishes, Jim