my heart is shouting for you to stay and fight - take the m-----f------b---- (insert expletives) down.
but my head thinks you need to be honest and say to yourself - is this job worth it? Could you get another one elsewhere? If the answer to the first is yes and to the second is no then stay and fight hun. But if the answer to either question is the other then walk away. Your health is not worth all this aggravation. If you do walk away then let the school and these so-called friends who witnessed the behaviour know that their actions are what has caused your departure.
I hate to see bullies like this win but you are the one who has to continue with this. Maybe try getting the police involved one last time and then if they cannot help then you just have to cut your losses. Short of taking a hit out on her (and some of us here are so angry on your behalf that we would happily do it for free), I donât know what else you can do.
it does sound like she needs professional help or someone to kick her butt coming to work drunk at a school?!? that should have gotten her fired in itself
I can only speak for myself, not other posters, but what isnât quite adding up for me is that despite you being as white as snow, so-to-speak, and the other party being a complete bitch, apparently nobody else can see this, no witness will speak for you, and you believe you will get in trouble if you go to police.
Havenât police already assured you they are more than interested in this kind of thing? So what is the obstacle? Work arenât dealing with it, the police have assured you of a listening ear. What exactly are you worried will come out?
To report an offence that, in the end, canât be prosecuted for lack of evidence, isnât the offence of âwasting police timeâ. Otherwise nobody would ever be able to report anything that might not be provable. The police will be more than familiar with the difficulties of collecting concrete evidence, and may even be able to give you some practical advice about how to do that. Or perhaps they will just have a quiet, informal word with her - no arrests, no nothing - and that by itself will be enough to put a stop to it. Sheâd have to be really nuts to carry on doing it after she knows police are taking an interest. And if she actually is that stupid, then youâve got her, havenât you?
Carole, this is a very vivid description of what happens in a toxic workplace. Anyone who has ever been in one will recognise it. Anyone who is lucky enough not to have been should read and learn and thank their lucky stars.
I wouldnt want to work with people like you describe, can you not go on the sick and look for another job,the situation will be making you very ill and NO job is worth that,i would move myself away from this toxic place,i really would.
I wanted to put a final post on here before I firmly draw a line under it!
The colleague who has made my working life hell for far too long has finally been sacked for gross misconduct! Two colleagues heard her vile offensive abuse towards me and had the balls to report it.
So I feel fully vindicated for all my posts on here and to the people who doubted my sincerity Iâve re-read all my posts numerous times and canât see what is not adding up in any of them! The negativity had a big impact on my already low confidence and I handed my notice in to my employer. Luckily for me he wouldnât accept it and I can now continue a job I love in peace.
To those of you who were so supportive I owe you a huge debt of gratitude when I was at my lowest (and believe me I was at a frighteningly low point in my life that I never want to return to) your positive advice and encouragement really helped so thank you.
Hi Freckles, Yay !!! Thank the lord for that, she has finally got her just desserts and good on your colleagues for coming through like that. Hopefully now you can start to enjoy life again xx
2] once it has been heard/ignored, leave and join another one, and tell the new one why.
unions get a good, regular % of earnings, and need to work for their members.
I canât imagine how vindicated you must have felt when she finally slipped up. i hope she was thoroughly admonished for her appalling behaviour towards you.
take care, and well done for carrying on- i canât imagine how unbearable that must have been for you.
iâve just read this whole post (very late to it!), i read it with a feeling of absolute horror for you. iâm so pleased for you that this vile bâh has FINALLY got her comeuppance. iâm sorry not to have been reading about it at the time, i would have added my âvoiceâ to the others who were cheering you on.
iâm really shocked that there were a few who were so doubting, itâs puzzling to me how, even if they donât have personal experience of bullying themselves, they couldnât see how this kind of abuse from a fellow worker might make you feel trapped and unable to see a way out, to the point where you might think that you wouldnât be believed by the authorities. to have them not believing is EXACTLY what you feared would happen. their posts must have had a really nasty effect on your confidence.
Congratulations Freckles. I missed the party, but glad your colleagues found their balls and pulled their heads out of their arses. Upwards and onwards. Today ice cream, tomorrow the world !!!
You hit the nail on the head Wendy I was already in an extremely low place and this forum was the only thing keeping me sane! so when people started questioning my honesty it was a real blow!
Just catching up - I wasnât on this forum when you first posted, but congratulations! I bet the relief you feel has left you giddy. I was reading your postings and thinking how a âcolleagueâ where I work has bullied me, and many others, over the years (nothing to do with disability, just general nastiness). Management know about it, and itâs a very different situation. In a way, itâs quite amusing for us. In the mornings we will sometimes get âweather reportsâ - âitâs very stormy here todayâ, âthereâs a heavy frostâ, that kind of thing, as a warning of what mood this person is in before we get to work. The person is nicknamed âPsychoâ by one department. They made it clear they didnât like me, so while they was at work, I kept my head down and kept quiet. Fortunately they only work part time.
The behaviour resulted in this person saying in a meeting (arranged by my boss to try and stop the silence between us) âI hate her, and Iâve always hated herâ⌠I had kept calm and quiet. Every time I tried to speak they talked over me, and I just stopped talking and let them. It made them look worse. Shortly after, they threw a hissy fit in the looâs, and my manager went to try and calm things down, which resulted in things being hurled across the room at him (and in the ladies loo, it meant lots of âfeminine hygiene productsâ that the ladies left on a shelf, which I find very amusing!). The person was suspended on full pay for 2 weeks (Seriously?! Is this really a punishment?! 2 weeks âfreeâ holiday!), and has since returned. I was assured that the company was working on getting rid of them, and to give it time, but just over 2.5 years later theyâre still here. A couple of weeks after they returned to work, the company then employed their daughter, who is even worse. Sheâs known as Psycho 2âŚ
Itâs a totally different situation, and management are aware and are monitoring, but isnât it shocking how this happens just about everywhereâŚ
coming to work drunk at a school?!? that should have gotten her fired in itself
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