Yes my friends. After a difficult 5 months he has come out of hiding and wants to meet up.
We need to talk about the Mortgage. Hes realised that the grass is not greener on the other side.
Im up nice and early to make sure I do everything I need to do, but most of all I will be applying several layers of ‘War Paint’.
I have several questions to ask him. I dont know if I will get any answers but hey, its a start.
Ive stopped crying now.
Let Battle commence.
Oh heck! Hope it goes well… (for you anyway). Will be thinking about you TIFF xx
Good luck Fairy Dust. Hope it goes well and that you get some answers! Teresa xx
Good luck fairy dusts glad your up and applied the war paint. It def makes you look stronger well it does in my case. Hope you get some answers. Em x
You go girl.
Just remember that you have come through this on your own and you are much stronger than you were. You have gained so much recently, and regardless of what happens when you meet him, don’t let him take it away.
Good luck hun and lots of hug
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Good luck, stay strong. I’ll look forward to hearing about it later, I’m sure you now realise that you can manage on your own and he is a little worm who deserves no sympathy.
Tracey xx
You’ve managed five difficult months. So a couple of hours with this man will be a breeze. War paint is a must…couldn’t face the day without a bit of lippy. Don’t forget!! He’s the one that’s been hiding…you’ve been meeting and dealing with your challenges. Your amazing!! Go get him 
Well Im back.
I know that I look good. Hair & make up all applied and styled carefully.
Hes still wearing same old tatty t.shirt that he bought 5 years ago.
We talked about the mortgage. Hes happy for me to have the house providing I dont touch his pension. BUT put £70k into the house anyway… how does that work…, he didnt put in a penny… ? Oh well the Solicitor will work that out.
Hes ABSOLUATELY strapped for cash. Hes got to sell his car. Hes not getting on very well in his new job and he thinks that he will have to back onto Division (where he started 11 years ago).
We actually had a nice chat and catch up.
I told him that I had been decorating and that I am going to Lanzarote for a week in May. I asked him what he was doing on his 40th. Hes said ‘nothing’. Im working a night shift.
I thought he was going to peck me on the cheek when we left the Cafe. But he didnt. I said that I still loved him and that he was still my husband. He just said ‘things change’
We parted. Then I cried.
FD
Hi Thought I would add a blokes view , carry on as your and let him go. He made his bed let him lie in it,he’s found out the grass isn’t greener Any bloke who can walk out when your going through illness ain’t worth JACK. Sorry if this offends but your better than this.and someone who loves you shouldn’t leave when it gets a little tough Have fun & move on Gray Xx
I can understand you saying, you still love him but are you in love with him?? Your doing great…like Gray says, keep moving forwards. Hugs to you xxx
Thanks guys.
Gray - Im not offended.
I have come home and thought about it. I actually now feel sorry for him.
Hes achieved absolutely nothing. Hes on his own and he is miserable. The only thing hes got is £10,000 debt and the dog.
But I knew that anyway.
Im not crying now.
FD
Hi, only just seen ypur post.
Before your update, you said, let battle commence, I wanted to say Yeh, with Boudica by your side.
You did okay, but hope by you teling him you still love him,it didnt let him think he can weedle his way back in.
You are bound to feel a twinge of sorrow for him, in is present lack lustre state…but stay strong and dont forget, if he does come back, he coud break your heart all over again.
I like Gray`s input and wonder what JBK said to get it zapped!
luv Pollx
Hi Fairy Dust
Must have been difficult for you but he walked out on you and chose to be away from you. So so sorry if this hurts you but I reckon you should look forward and not backwards. Hopefully someone who really cares will be your next love.
Take care.
Shazzie xx
hi fairy dust
like every worm he turned in the end!
take care and make sure he doesnt try to wheedle his way back in.
hugs (((((xxx)))))
carole x
I have more sympathy for the person who doesn’t air his/her dirty washing in public!
Best of luck for your future days, whatever your decision. We are made of tougher stuff than people think.
RF
Please try not to feel sorry for him Fairy Dust. He is a grown man and has made his choices (with little thought for you), now he has to live with them. He is not your responsibility.
I was in a similar situation and took my ex partner back (because I felt sorry for him) and went through two years of hell. You can’t just switch off love, but once the trust is gone…
Stay strong hun, it will get easier.
Mags xx
zetland
dont be bitchy
Oh Zetland, that’s a bit harsh… Fairydust has been through hell these last five months and i’ve no doubt it has helped her cope with things a little bit better by chatting with people on here.
I agree, chatting on this forum can help us all cope with different issues that affect us. But my personal feeling is that some issues between couples or between husband and wife should remain private.