Hi
So I had my first attack 2 and a half years ago been on techfidera now for one year it seems to be working so far no further attacks touch wood.
I am 38 now have my own little building business, for how long more not sure now 
before I got told I had this stupid illness I was working every hour I could and when not working I would be out fell running with my dogs. I had girlfriends but never really found the one, there was always plenty of time to settle down. Ohhh I so wish I had made more time to find that special person as now I am finding this dating sooooo hard, so many questions going round in my head do I tell them this date or the next date I have ms, will they run a mile when I do tell them god it’s hard. Then I think just stay single save having to push her away when if my ms gets really bad.
Sorry probably seems a bit trivial to lots of you, just having a bad week I guess.
not sure I want to be on my own but finding it so hard to move forwards
James
Don’t think all of them would run away James, your still you!! If they do, their not worth it anyway! Your MS may stay the same, it may not, who knows? Think you need to have a little more faith in yourself, if you don’t try, you will forever be wondering, sure you will be lucky, just got to have a go! Tell them when your ready, give yourself the chance of being happy, life doesn’t stop just because you have MS, it can alter, but wont stop, better to try than regret letting the MS ruin things, go for it!! Tracey
It ain’t trivial at all, James.
Your feelings are as important to us as anyone’s chuck!
I guess the majority of members here got the diagnoses or symptoms after getting hitched or matched up.
If you don’t want to spend your life on your own, then just date and see if it takes you anywhere.
I don’t see the point of telling a date straight away, that you have MS.
If after say 3 or 4 dates, things are going well, then broach the subject and if she’s right or not for you, then you’ll know.
Pollsx
Hi James, I agree with what Polls said. I met my husband on a dating web site AFTER going on dates with nineteen other blokes 
It was before this illness reared it’s ugly head but I am sure my husband would have still asked me to marry him if I had told him after a number of dates. It is you as a person the woman will fall in love with James. Nobody knows what the future holds but look on the bright side and go for it and hopefully you will be lucky like me!
Hi James
Changing the subject slightly, you’re on a DMD that is doing the job for you it seems. Chances are that even if the Tecfidera stops working well, you can change to another good DMD. So the likelihood is that you’ll not be massively disabled by MS.
If you meet someone new, there is always the chance that they can get a life changing illness, the difference for you is that you already know you have MS.
So how do you feel if you meet someone, fall head over heels, then they get Motor Neurone Disease? Would you want to walk away? Or if they have a stroke (and they can happen to relatively young people)?
No one ever knows the future when they meet someone new.
I’m not trying to minimise the worry you feel about when / how / if to disclose your MS. It’s a real concern. But sometimes you have to just live, see what happens and you may meet the woman of your dreams. Who can live with your unpredictable disease. (And with you of course!)
Btw, I met my OH a bit over 4 years after my first MS symptoms but was told it wasn’t MS. We got together, I was diagnosed 6 months later. A couple of years later we / I had a wobble and we split up for a couple of months. In retrospect I am glad that he had the option not to be with a person with MS. But he did. We have now been married for 12 years. Yes, I am disabled, we don’t necessarily have the life we expected. But we are together and there’s no going back now. For either of us.
So, try to take it easy on yourself. Don’t tell everyone you have a date with, but if it seems more serious, then of course you have to tell them. If she’s right for you, she’ll stick around. If she’s not, she won’t.
Good luck.
Sue
Thanks everyone. Just having a bit of wobble this week.
take care
James