Hello
I was diagnosed with MS in 2014 and no relapses since fortunately. When i go dating and and after a few dates i tell a girl i have MS the reaction isn’t great the last 3 times.
I’ve finally met someone i really like and it’s been incredible. I finally told her about my condition and i’ve given her space as she’s requested. I feel like this isin’t going to be outcome i would like.
I feel like i’m never going to be in a long term relationship as the uncertainty is so great for the other person.
Any advice? Honestly feel exhausted and feel like giving up.
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I met my boyfriend while I had “chronic illness X” and I just explained to him that I couldn’t walk very far, was often in pain, had weird symptoms, chronic insomnia, pain, etc. He just accepted it cause he wanted to get to know me. We later found out together it was MS. I usually tell people to approach dating like this. Maybe tell people you date when you start out that you have a chronic illness that means you are tired a lot, have pain sometimes, but have a normal lifespan, and it’s under control and it’s not that serious (but keep it private). And if things go well tell them more details after a few dates when you feel more comfortable and like this is actually going somewhere? Remember many people don’t know what MS is or how science has changed things for the better, a lot of my friends still think of it as “that wheelchair disease” that means you’ll be sh*tting yourself within 15 years so it can put potential dates off if you use those letters instead of explaining it first or building trust and a relationship first. Some even didn’t know MS was the same as multiple sclerosis. Some went “what’s MS”. Some thought I would die within 20 years. People are very uneducated. So if dates decide to ghost you please don’t blame yourself, they may be very very very uneducated.
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Thank you for your advice. I just felt like things were heading in the right direction and then as soon as i mention the condition…the mood completely changes.
I appreciate people aren’t educated about it but i am always open and encourage them to ask questions.
I guess on a pros and cons lost… It doesn’t fair well.
I do appreciate your advice. I think as i was diagnosed at 26…it took myself time to get used to the diagnosis so the peak dating time was on hold.
I was diagnosed 2011 and that’s what I was told I walking around as normal now, 2023 started to hit my body with my legs I was told I was going through stage two I didn’t know I went through stage one I told my wife then after a few months she walked out and divorce me because i was going through stage two of MS. Me and my granddaughter, 1
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Hello,
I can’t say I’ve really dated or had relationships but if I start now, I think it would be tricky explaining: what’s with the walking aids?
Probably a venue with disabled access is ideal but it’s never even considered at a lot of places.
Best regards,
JP