Well, the pantomime goes on. After being on a dating site for the last couple of months I have decided to stop watching TV, this is far more entertaining. I must have a sign on my head which says"Fruit Loop required, apply within". I have been contacted by the whole cast of One flew over the Cuckoos Nest, including nurse Ratchett! I have been asked if I would have sex with an 18 year old while her boyfriend filmed us, asked if I liked games involving cream buns and whether I would like to take part in an orgy. Now when I was alive I may have considered all three but somehow I feel the wheelchair would spoil some of the camera angles. Not giving up though, there must be someone out there who is into normal depravity! Gary
Oh dear! I left my husband about 9 months ago now, and have only recently been diagnosed with ms. I’ve done the whole blind date thing before, so I understand that part, but now I’ve got to do it ( the dating thing) with crutches ( at the moment). Think I might leave all that for a while!!
Oh dear! I left my husband about 9 months ago now, and have only recently been diagnosed with ms. I’ve done the whole blind date thing before, so I understand that part, but now I’ve got to do it ( the dating thing) with crutches ( at the moment). Think I might leave all that for a while!!
Sorry that posted twice!
They cant be all weirdos or nutters…but I guess you gotta kiss a lot of frogs eh?
pollx
Ages since I used a dating site, but my sister recently ditched her fiance, and was straight back on the sites within a week or two.
She’s not having much luck either. She’s “the wrong side of 40”, shall we say - though not as far the wrong side as I am.
As a result, she’s being approached by guys in their 70s! Now I’m not saying people in their 70s shouldn’t have romance, or a sex life, and I accept age gap relationships can work out OK - before I get a storm of protest from people who are happily in one. But isn’t it a little ambitious or unrealistic for 70-something guys to be chasing women 30 years younger, and thinking they’ll be grateful for the interest?
Also, the messages she’s been getting are quite lewd and innuendo-ridden; all: “nudge-nudge, wink-wink, How about it?”. Maybe if you’re there for a bit of no-strings hanky-panky, as a lot of them seem to be, this doesn’t come across as tacky and demeaning, but if anyone’s looking for a serious partner they might actually like and respect, what sort of message is it sending?
I don’t think I’d have the patience, any more, to sift through 250 messages mostly of the form: “Oi, Darlin’ - bet you’re up for it?” Haven’t we moved on from Benny Hill?
So it’s not just men get besieged by no-hopers.
Tina
you lot got to tell me what sites you are using. I could do with a few men chasing me.
How about this for a description - ginger, bespeckled, ‘chubby Amazon’ (translates that as tall, overweight, broad shoulders, broad hips and big boobs) seeks blind bloke with lots of money and a bad heart!!!
JBK xx
A lot of the messages are pretty blunt as to what they want and I imagine it must be worse for the females. I just think some of it is hilarious. I reckon a lot of guys try to punch above their weight because the whole thing is pretty anonymous really but there are probably females who do as well. There have been a couple who are obviously vulnerable and would be open to players but I guess they got to negotiate that. No idea whether I will meet someone or will finally put my Psychology Degree to good use. I fear it may be the latter. Better buy a leather couch!!
I’ve tried dating sites, they are pants lol. Like looking for a needle in a haystack lol
To many nutters women with way to much baggage like convo’s over a drink and they go on about ex etc and why did I keep ending up with teachers.
So I thought I take the cowards way out and quickly told them I had MS but they did not care. Anyway subscription ran out and decided to wait until I got a job.
Now I don’t think I can be bothered with them places they are funny and very entertaining bit like facebook but without all the inspirational crappy pictures people put up.
But facebook is free, 15 out of 20 women on them dating sites say on their profile They like horse riding, sporty, goto gym and noooooo they lied end up having a drink with a whale.
Oh and stay clear of so called disabled websites, your end up with either chatting to a bipolar, nutter or a biopolar nutter also
I was convinced there was paid staff interacting with people (fake profiles)
Understand about the paid staff bit. You get the gorgeous woman sending you a message but yo can only read it if you subscribe. I usually look at myself in the mirror and say " aye right, of course she wants you" not! I am not stupid enough to fall for that, well I might still be on the stupid side but still not falling for it. And isn’t it amazing how many women like walks on the beach? Bit hard on the arms dragging the wheels through the sand but good for the arm muscles I bet. And you are right the majority are carrying lots of baggage or seem damaged by past relationships, but then again aren’t we all. I will keep on until my subscription runs out, who knows I may find an angel who has no issues, doesn’t mind the MS and all it brings, is understanding, loving and easy going. Then again I may find the cure for MS, cancer and all current in curable illnesses before breakfast this morning. Gary P.S. I am well aware I have my own issues and am probably damaged goods myself but at least I am aware of them.
Yeah I totally get it. I met a guy for coffee had some flirty messages forgot all about it then I get a phone call from his gf asking what I’d been doing with his gf Eh gf he said an ex wife been seeing someone and it didn’t work. I apologised but he was on the site. 20 minutes later letting her rant I got off the phone with her asking if she can phone again. She asked what I thought of him I really wanted to say he was ugly and no way so I just politely said there was no spark at all Kinda puts u off that site Then there the Eastern Europeans who either don’t care about ms or haven’t a clue what it is
The European sites are a hoot. Women looking for a man between the ages of 16 & 90. Some of the photographs are miss world material, what a boost it would be getting pushed into the local by one of them. I have this image of sitting there watching the other guys drool and get a glimpse of what it’s like to be me (ah but without the gorgeous Bulgarian catering to your every need). Then the alarm goes off and I have to go shower. Ah well, another day in paradise!
i was on a free dating site,dunno if i’m allowed to mention the site but i will anyway (p.o.f)
i found most the female to be players,they whinge on saying their looking for someone genuin and about us blokes been players,its them whose the worse.needless to say i didnt go on any dates,and now i’m under investigation for ms its pointless going back on,so it looks like i’m going to die a lonely old man,46yr old and past my sell bye date 
but their loss as they wouldnt off found anyone more genuiner
What I cant understand is this;
arent these sites moderated, to filter the lewd comments?
or do these sort of comments happen in pms?
Some people do find partners here.
Cant we have a board for those looking for partners? Or woud that become a no-go area too?
what do you reckon?
pol
I tried one once, but I’m such a lucky bastard, she sounded so good just what iv always wanted, arranged a meeting, and guess what, it was my Ex-wife, lucky?? What did you expect, iv got ms, lucky. Lol
I don’t think the forum is geared up for that also you have no idea where anyone is 1/2 the time profile is blank no piccys also which does help.
I guess someone could set up a facebook group (not page) for people willing to look for either social or a partner. Least it would be free and safe in the sense any posts or pms can be tracked with ip addresses.
I think a social is better as anything else could develop later and being social is good for eveyone who has a car etc.
Poll,
The comments aren’t lewd in a way that would break the law or anything. I don’t think many people would use a dating site where their messages were all moderated. They will, by definition, be in PMs - it’s not a forum, so you don’t telll the whole world who you’re interested in. People approach members (er…no pun intended) individually, whose profiles they like the look of.
What’s said between them is up to them. There’s no rule about the opening gambit being: “Phwoaaar! How about it?” any more than there would be in a bar - it’s just not to everybody’s taste.
Long time since I used them, but I believe there is usually (always?) a mechanism for reporting content so strong it’s worrying, or potentially breaks the law - e.g. if someone was describing how they wanted to assault you. But it won’t get censored just for being crass. Presumably, some people who are only there for one thing won’t mind that?
Besides, if everyone had to mind their Ps and Qs, how would you know if the person who’s just approached you has a one-track mind, and is not a gentleman (or lady)? If they’re only allowed to make smalltalk about the weather, you potentially wouldn’t find out until you’re on a date with them! It has to be allowed to say you find someone attractive, but there are nice and not-so-nice ways of doing it.
Example (from years ago):
“So, what do you do for a living?”
Me: “Go on, have a guess?”
“From your picture? I’d say definitely a hooker!”
Believe it or not, I think that was supposed to be a compliment. And no, I wasn’t posing in a bikini, or undies, or topless - just what I hoped was a reasonably flattering full-face selfie - no flesh on display. But that’s the standard of flirtation you have to put up with. Somebody actually thought telling someone they don’t know they look like a hooker was a nice thing to say.
No clue!
T.
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my (aged) grandmother has just phoned me asking why would groups of people be taking their dogs for a walk in the late evening when it’s dark in the country park near where she lives. (her equally elderly neighbour had told her about this new phenomenon.)
Have you seen the dogs I asked - No, she replied, - that’s the odd thing they don’t seem to have any dogs with them.
Should I try to explain what’s going on to her or leave her in blissful ignorance - she’s 88?
Some years ago she asked my aunt what a lesbian was - when told she replied that ‘they didn’t have them in my day!’
(this is slightly? off-topic to the dating question but I thought I’d share it)
Oh and there was the muttering along the lines of - ‘well just what do they do?’ when two gay men were interviewed following their recent publicised wedding.
– regrettably going ‘anon’
Dogging is not for me