Ah yes, I remember you from that post now! Sorry I didn’t recognize you - you have a pretty distinctive username, as well.
It’s water under the bridge now, and, others said at the time, you did get the right outcome anyway (referral for MRI), but for future reference, lists are all very well, but save them as a memory jogger for you. I’m not sure whether you actually handed it over to him or not, but if you did, you have paved the way for exactly the response you got - instead of a two-way interaction (which is the point of going), the list is quickly shelved.
To get the most out of a list, assume it’s for you, not him. If he would like a copy at the end, that’s fine, but don’t hand it over straight away, allowing him brush it aside and change the subject.
Most neurologists will be short of time (that, at least, is probably not his fault), so it’s always a good idea to organise your list in order of the most serious and pressing problems - the biggies at the top. That way, if you run out of time, or get stressed and forget something, it won’t be one of the huge things you’re really worried about. Save the “minor niggles” or very occasional, shortlived things for the bottom, so it won’t matter as much if you don’t get to them.
Try to group similar symptoms together, so if you have, say, tingling, in a foot, a hand, and a thigh, don’t list it as three separate things, just put the bullet point: “Tingling - several places” - you could add in brackets: foot, hand, thigh. This makes your list more manageable, for both you and him.
If you introduce the broad subject, “Tingling”, it’s quite likely his next question will be: “OK, where’s it been tingling?”, so you you will cover all examples of that naturally, without it seeming like three separate topics.
Same could go for weakness, pain, vision problems etc. - organise similar things into broad categories. It makes the list smaller, and he won’t be thinking: “OMG, we’ll be here 'til next Tuesday, and my next patient’s due in ten minutes!”
It’s a good idea to be able to give some impression of approximately when or how often things occurred, and how long they lasted, but it doesn’t have to be minute detail. E.g. “Around Christmas, for about a week”, should be fine. You don’t need to tell him: “On Tuesday, at about 10 a.m, my little finger was tingling, and then it went away, but I noticed it again about 2:00.” That is too much detail. It’s enough to say something like: “Sometimes I get tingly fingers: it’s not continual, but it can happen a couple of times a day.” You won’t be expected to produce a log - estimated frequency is enough.
The only time I’ve done a detailed log has been when they asked me to try to reconstruct how often I’d relapsed prior to being diagnosed. I hadn’t kept a diary at the time, so even that was a bit hit-and-miss, but I was able to reassemble rough dates with reference to other things that had been going on in my life - e.g. that one must have been around my birthday, one was just before/after my dad died - that sort of thing. Also, thank God for email, which keeps everything you ever send these days! I was able to find emails to friends, in which I’d said things like: “I think I might not be very well; my legs really hurt this week!” Obviously, these emails all had dates, so it was quite easy to deduce a timeline of probable relapses. You don’t have to be able to swear on oath - it just gives a picture.
Tina
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