Interesting thought and I partially agree. I am not generally a selfish person and will do as much as possible to help those around me. I will always go out of my way to help my boyfriend and make him happy, even at the cost of my own happiness on ocassions. It has made me realise that other people may have ‘invisible’ things going on their lives that I know nothing about - not many of my friends know whats going on with me. It has also made me try to be more patient because I have to explain things out to my boyfriend - because he doesn’t know what’s going on with my body I have to tell him when something’s wrong but sometimes he has questions. Rather than getting frustrated he doesn’t understand, I am talking to him a lot more - if anything MS has helped us both greatly in our relationship as we communicate more.
On the other side, there are days when I am exhausted and cannot bear the thought of making us both dinner, for example. Before I had MS, I would have pushed myself and made dinner anyway. Now, I won’t and will ask him to do dinner, or other chores (which he does without complaining.)
I suppose it has made me slightly more selfish in that I rely on him slightly more now but I suppose I am quite lucky in that he is very understanding and doesn’t actually consider me to be selfish for sometimes needing help getting around or just wanting him to stay in because I’ve had a bad day and want a movie night with cuddles.
I think it has made me just more aware of other people and their feelings as well.