Hi. I am new here and would like some advice. I am 49 and have been in a relationship with a lady of 41 for 2 months. She has been diagnosed with MS for 3 years. I’m feeling very positive about our future and would like some guidance on how it progresses. I want her to feel confident that I have the mindset and tools to be prepared for eventualities that may occur. She is a very strong and beautiful woman in body and mind. I just want to find a way of reassuring her without sounding patronising.

hi baxy

let her take the lead when it comes to talking about ms.

i’m sure you won’t sound patronising but it’s great that you are aware.

we all experience this same disease differently so it’s nigh on impossible to say how your friend will progress.

having good times is vital.

mostly my diary is all medical appointments but i have the odd mad week of socialising (followed by the inevitable 2 weeks of exhaustion).

the odd weekend away works wonders too.

casually mention the possibility of a weekend away and take it from there.

wishing you both the best of everything.

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