Sorry to hear your problems at this time Steve.
Can I just add that Im utterly convinced that my MS was brought on by stress.
At the time of showing symptoms I had been made redundant after 32 in the same company, not great at any time, but coming up to the age of 50 made it more of a worry, then luckily I found a job, but was again laid off after just 4 months, very soon after this my father in law developed bowel cancer, he subsequently had 3 heart attacks whilst in hospital trying to recover from the cancer, within a few more months my own father then developed the exact same cancer, then almost on top of this my mother in law developed pancreatic cancer, she passed away within 12 weeks. then within 12 months my own mother developed the same disease, pancreatic cancer, 9 weeks later she was gone !!
All of this was over 18 months or so.
Both my father and father in law survived their ordeals but are both very poorly and are now looked after by myself and wife, who if it were not for her I dont think I would be here myself, yep, I’ve had those “thoughts” of “calling it a day” a few times over the last few years, but I then think sod it dont give in to this crap condition.
My father has since had 3 hip replacements (one failed), so if you could see me and him try to hold each up other, well just try picturing it, I guess it would be funny if not so sad !!
This last 5 years has been nothing but absolute hell & stress, and I really do believe it was this that kicked off my MS, and the ongoing stress that has progressed the condition.
I’m sorry for adding this to your post but I can fully understand how the stress from losing someone close or even having someone close be ill can really knock the stuffing out of you and lets your MS run wild.
Hope everything settles down for you, and take care .