My boyfriend with MS has been telling me silly lies. I’ve confronted him and asked why he’s been lying to me and he’s said it’s because recently he’s been feeling really insecure and he’s worried I’m going to leave him.
He’s on a trial drug and has infusions every six months and for about a month before the infusion he was feeling rubbish everyday and we hadn’t been intimate. He’s said that he feels like he’s been an ‘average boyfriend’ and that he should have ‘manned up’ and made more of an effort to be intimate even though he didn’t feel like it.
I’ve never said that and I have tried to be patient and supportive even though I’ve also found it hard and have sometimes felt disconnected.
I feel like I’m a very supportive girlfriend. I hate being lied to. What can I do to make him feel less insecure and more able to speak openly with me?