So when I was diagnosed I met my bf, now fiance who has MS too. It works because we understand it. However, the difference in gender means there are certain things I’m having trouble understanding. It’s been about 8 months since our sex life started to plummet. I cant actually remember the last time we had sex. I’m 27, he’s 31.
I know sex isn’t ‘important’ but i do feel like without the closeness and bonding that sex provides we are growing apart. He says things between his waist and thighs is all numb. And his sex drive is dead. Even though I get a lot of fatigue and my motivation is dead, I’m still very much sexually active. I can see to myself sexually but that’s not what I’m after. I don’t want to be close and intimate with vibrating rubber!
I know this must be more distressing for him than me but it frustates me that he is too stubborn to even ask for help. He doesn’t have a MS nurse (I have a few…) and he takes nothing for his MS. I supose I’m posting this not just to get it out of my system but in hope of receiving some helpful advice.
Is there anything that can help his numbness? If there something I haven’t thought of that we could both do instead of sex to help ime get the ‘closeness’ I desire? Am I being incredibly childish and selfish? I just didn’t expect sex to stop for me before I reached 50! 70 even! (If I live that long…)
Sorry to complain, but I only get 1 life, I want to do everything I can to make the best of it!