I need a hug!

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Have been in a similar situation. My guess is she will get very upset, say that she didn’t realise that what she was doing was causing distress, be very apologetic and because of this approach she will ESCAPE ANY CENSURE from the head/line manager because she knows that appearing to be upset gives the impression to the managers that she is sorry and contrite. She is neither. Things will be settled for a while and then she’ll start again either on you or someone else. It will follow the same pattern – abuse and bullying then tearful apologies. What you must make clear is that if it happens again you are taking your complaint higher up - do not be influenced by her crocodile tears. Tell them you feel that you are being Discrimanted against and it’s not acceptable. Take notes IN the meeting - record what she said and what the head/line manager said. This will give you a sense of control.

[/quote] My hunch was right – the bit** got away with it! I would write to the Chair of Governers telling him/her what happened. Emphasise that you feel the head has handled the situation fairly but you are taking the heads invitation to write to the Governors because what has happened was very distressing and they should be aware of the situation.

another reason why you should write to the Governors is that she may well write to them and you need to get your side of the story on record.

Had to come back to find this as I had been wondering what happened - I know I’m nosey! I’m with Zetland. Write to the governors as her behaviour needs to be formally on record. If it happens again (hopefully not) then you can refer to this instance. The positive is that she now knows you won’t be bullied. Take care. xx

Hi All

I had to come back to this post, because the issue has reappeared! Once again this coleague had been hurtful and insulting in a clever way so no witnesses! I reported her to my boss and he spoke to her. Of course she denied everything and now she is getting her union involved saying that I am the one lying!

Has anyone ever dealt with their union? I’m having sleepless nights and am feeling as rough as if I was having a relapse.

Freckles