I was hoping that you may be able to offer some advice to me on the best time to tell someone you are dating that you have MS.
Bit of background - I am a 30 year old female and I was officially diagnosed with RRMS in January of this year although my first symptoms started in September 2011. I am very lucky in that I recovered fully from any relapses and pseydo-relapses I have experienced to date and these have been fairly infrequent and have not interfered too much with my day to day stuff but I do accept that this can change. I have been very accepting of my diagnosis and if I am honest it was a relief to know what was actually up instead of my GP telling me that all was fine when I couldn’t feel my legs! Taking vitamin D is the only change I have had to make at the moment and my Consultant supports my decision not to start DMDs yet.
Back to the question in hand, I have met a great guy, we get on really well (unusual for me as I have always been quite fussy about who I date), altough we have only been on two dates it feels like we have known eachother for ages and we can just chat for hours about anything and nothing. On our second date I wanted to tell him that I have MS but as we had had a few drinks I didn’t think it was the best time for me to do this but I felt like I was keeping something from him which made me feel uncomfortable. He works in the medical sector and actively campaigns for people with disabilities so I am hopeful he may be able to handle my MS, but you never know.
Is it best to tell someone sooner rather than later in your experiences? I am of the view that I should tell him the next time I see him as if it is an issue for him it would be better to know now rather than a few months down the line.
Any thoughts on the matter would be greatly appreciated.