I was diagnosed in July. I had been seeing my boyfriend 4 months prior to my diagnoses. From day 1 I was honest with him…they thought I had MS. It wasn’t an issue, it didn’t affect our relationship at all. We got to know each other and got close.
After I was diagnosed, we had a long chat about my treatment options. Again, other than a few initial concerns that we spoke about at the time, we were both happy with each other. We both said as long as we talk to each other about how we feel and communicate we would be ok, and we were.
3 weeks ago, he broke up with me. His words; “If you become disabled in 20 years time I don’t want to look after you. It might ruin my life”
I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to go from here. There was absolutely nothing to indicate this was how he felt. He told me he was happy. On the other hand, I can appreciate if he had concerns, this can’t be easy for him either. But I am so angry at how he handled the situation. Apparently he had felt this way for over a month but didn’t say anything. So much for communicating.
I wish he knew what this has done to me, for my confidence. I constantly worry about spending my life alone now. If I meet someone, at what point do I tell them I have MS? If I tell them right off, it might seem like it’s a big deal…I don’t let MS rule my life. But if I wait until we get to know each other, I run the risk of the same thing happening again. I don’t even know how I would go about meeting someone again.
I have never been rejected in this manner before.
I’m not looking for answers…I just needed to get this out there.
Thank you for listening guys