I needed some advice please! My husband has been at his parents house for the past 8 days (he said he was going for 3 and would be back but not sure when he’s back now)… and he hasn’t bothered to call and barely texts! I know he’s busy with his family who he hasn’t seen for ages which I can appreciate, plus he’s doing a bit of refurb around the house BUT am I wrong or selfish to think he could pick up the phone for 2 mins and just ask how I am, or to say anything, or to text a little how his day was before bed? I called him twice, and the third is when he whatsapp called me, I missed it but called back 2 mins later only to hear that ‘my fat fingers accidentally called you’… He did offer to stay on the phone to talk, I did for about 5 mins and then told him to get on with his work cos it had just upset me that it wasn’t really him who wanted to talk to me…
Tonight he said I miss you and I just sent him the rolling eyes emoticon on whatsapp because that’s exactly how I feel (8 days later!)
What’s worse is… I wasn’t well before he left (going through a possible relapse/mystery symptoms of something)… Last Friday (a day after he went), I told him how my conversation with the GP went, mentioned to him that I was in tears when talking to her and just felt really rubbish. He did text me saying we’ll get through this etc, but he hasn’t once asked me how I am in regards to it. He asks you ok? But that’s a generalised comment - nothing of what is actually wrong with me - nor did he pick up the phone at the time to talk - or throughout…!
Am I wrong to be really annoyed with him? I suffer anxiety anyway, me being un well and no one knowing what’s up with me is worse and then not even having my own husband not talk to me… I’ve literally been in tears most nights - I didn’t know who to talk to so here I am typing this!
I don’t even think he knows what he’s doing which is getting me annoyed at him and I just feel once he’s back, whenever that is, i’m just going to have a huge argument, cry and not want to talk to him at all… So my Q to you all is, am I wrong to feel that way? Or should I just bottle up and be fine with him?
Background info: we’ve been married 2.5 years, knew each other for about 14 years! He’s always said he’d support me through my Ms (I was diagnosed in 2007) but here he is not asking how I am when going through a possible relapse (will know on Tuesday, I had my bloods and urine done today to rule out any infections)…
Help me feel better please!