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Advice please

Hi all hope you are all as well as can be.

I need some advice as I am feeling so fearful of everything and I don’t know if it is an age thing ( nearly 55 ) or what.

My husband has a day off tomorrow and has suggested we go for a drive to (check something out) somewhere which is about 2 hours away and the first thing I thought of was "What if we have an accident ? "

I cannot go anywhere without thinking something bad might happen, I have not told my husband about this. I don’t think I have ever been like this before.

Thanks

Sounds like little panic attacks/anxiety Jaycie. Might be worth mentioning to your GP though if you are worried.

I remember when we went on a holiday abroad a couple of years ago. I hated the flight over there and was convinced we were gonna crash on the way back. I had to really force myself to board the plane. The worst part was having a dream the night before we left to come home where my wrist watch fell onto the tarmac while we were queuing to board and guess what actually happened when we were waiting to board. My watch strap broke. Nightmare! But I got on the plane and it was fine. I didn’t tell anyone about this until a few months after we got back. It’s a horrible feeling. Try not to worry about it though. We all get anxieties like that from time to time.

Shazzie xx

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Hi all hope you are all as well as can be.

I need some advice as I am feeling so fearful of everything and I don’t know if it is an age thing ( nearly 55 ) or what.

My husband has a day off tomorrow and has suggested we go for a drive to (check something out) somewhere which is about 2 hours away and the first thing I thought of was "What if we have an accident ? "

I cannot go anywhere without thinking something bad might happen, I have not told my husband about this. I don’t think I have ever been like this before.

Thanks

[/quote] Hello Jaycie. I agree with Shazzie, sounds like anxiety. As something happened over the last few days/weeks thats made you feel more anxious than usual…sometimes there’s a trigger. Could be you’ve got something on your mind that you need to share with your husband or friend. Or you just plain feel anxious Lol and it will pass like all things do. Have a lovely day tomorrow.

Thank you for your kind replies.

I don’t know what is the matter with me as I am always normally happy and laughing most of the time (except when talking about the MS)

xxxx

I know exactly what you mean…would just like a day when I don’t think about it…I was trying to cheer you up Lol. I always find going out with a close friend for cake and a cuppa and spending money helps me.

Blossom, you did cheer me up.

I just keep having these feelings of doom and it is so unlike me so that is why I don’t want to tell anyone (except on here)

Thank you x

well you keep coming on here and having a good moan…I do. I’ll cheer you up and you can have a go at cheering me up…many people have tried and failed LOl Why don’t you have a chat with your gp or MS nurse, make sure everything ok?

Just tell yourself Jaycie that we all get times like these.

I really hope you manage to have a nice day tomorrow then you will see that the anxious thoughts you sometimes get don’t come true.

Be thinkng of you tomorrow.

Shazzie xx

Thank you both of you x x

I actually did a bit of reading about this because I am a sufferer of the “what if” syndrome.

It’s pretty common and is called catastrophizing.

Basically you think every situation into a worse case scenario and then decide that the worse case is a catastrophe and not just a bad situation. In other words you have decided that you “might” have an accident and that accident will be a catastrophe.

I had counseling recently and he encouraged me to think through the worse case situation I had imagined in my head and see myself coping with it. Once you see that the imagined situation is something that you can handle it doesn’t seem so bad. Also he encouraged me to think of mildly unpleasant outcomes to situations not just seriously negative outcomes. Every time I went through the “what if………” I was to think of something less burdensome – see myself coping with it and also accept that there was also the possibility, if not probability, of a positive outcome.

Jane

I hope you had a really lovely day out with your husband today Jaycie.

Oh dear, I feel really bad now as we didn’t go today but, put it off till tomorrow. Thank you so much for thinking of me I will let you know when I get back tomorrow.

xx

Hi had a lovely day out with hubby yesterday (Sat) and got home safely.

Thanks

xxxxxxx

Yah!! Glad to hear you had a lovely day.