I’m curious, has anyone made any big desicions or made a big change in your everyday life while your MS has been in the background?
The reason why I’m asking is because I’d love to change my job and move to a new location, I have nothing planned I’m just looking around at the moment. But I’m worried that maybe I’m taking on too much and I’m getting myself ready for a fall.
If you have any thoughts or advice, I’d be interested to hear it
…hope this makes sense 
Hiya.
At the start of this year I decided to move back to Manchester from Sheffield. It was a decision I made a while ago, but didn’t anticipate it happening so soon. Then my best friend was having troubles with her flat mate and I suggested moving in and the other flat mate going. I then moved in within the month. Although it was an impulse decision, I am so glad I did it as I am now living in a better enironment and closer to my friends. I still have to go back to Sheffield a few times a month for uni and treatment at the hospital, but I am happier here.
I’d say it is worth going ahead. Your MS is just part of you and you do need to take more things into consideration when making big decisions like this, but it can’t dictate your life. Taking a fall is always in the back of my mind. It’s going to happen at some point. But until then, I’m going to live my life.
hi minnie
just do it!
don’t wait until its too late. life is for living, grab it and make the most of it.
do you know what kind of work you would like to try?
do you have an idea of where you’d like to move to?
is it a big move (from north to south of uk)?
will it mean moving away from your suport network - friends and family?
once you’ve answered these questions to yourself, you’ll be in better place to move forward.
good luck
carole x
I agree with Carole. Why put your life on hold just because of MS? Do you really want to look back and wonder ‘what if’? Give it the same consideration you would if you MS wasn’t a factor. After all, if you had already done it before you were diagnosed you wouldn’t have had a choice now and you never know what is in store for the rest of life so why spend your whole life worrying about what might happen next?
Tracey x
Depends what you want out a life; you sound like you’re a ‘wanter’ if there’s such a word and that’s great. Lead your life with this little phrase ‘Never worry about doing anything; only worry about not doing it.’
Some of the things I got up to in my younger days I could not; wouldn’t want to do now; you may only get that one chance grab it; if it does not work out it will stop you wondering ‘what if.’
Good luck
G
I have. I was a chef for 25 years, really enjoyed my job, but MS had a big part in me having to give it up. During the same time, we moved house to a different town. I then enrolled on a course in Counselling, which I am nearing the end of ( exam on May 12th) and start my next level in September, at the same time doing Psychology A level. I have also just finished my training to be a Samaritan. Don’t let MS rule the direction of your life, if possible. I say go for it! My only regret is I never did it sooner! Best wishes xxx
Hi, interesting post!
The thing about having a chronic condition, is that it makes you realise how life can change…dramatically!
Therefore if there is something you`ve always wanted to do and it is within your grasp and ability, then DO it…before it becomes a more difficult or impossible task.
luv Pollx
Thank you all your thoughts, I want a fresh start, just need to find the motivation instead of coming up with excuses lol
attack attack attack! if you can, you can use MS to galvinise you, takes away the fear of anything else.
Yeah I left my husband the week of my first relapse 6 weeks later if a massive relapse the week he moved out. Had to move in with mum had 5 months from hell as the hospital played the stress card. Then came to the mutual decision to move back home with my son but leave my daughter at mums. (She lived literally round the corner) before we all killed each other. 2 weeks later an other massive relapse. I now need to sell my house as it’s over 3 floors and it huge wasn’t able to manage it without ms no chance bow lol. Was planning to move to the country that won’t happen now. So my priority is to get something more manageable and I’m determined to get a summer house so I can watch the kids play in confort and when they are in bed it will be my sanctuary. I live in a small town when people are quite money orientated they used to make me apprehensive. Worrying what people think I now don’t care.but on a different note my neighbours have been amazing people I didn’t really know but would say hi to have been coming round walking the dog, remind me about wheelie bins etc, took a little gift home from tneir holidays to the kids. And generally just amazingly nice people. I wasn’t strong enough to stand up to people now I realise if I don’t no one will. My ex sis in law was my best friend they haven’t seen willow since she was 4 weeks old have offered no help during last 9 months. Now I realise her and her mum aren’t nice people. I would never have stopped them seeing her if they’d came and asked and we really needed help. My mum couldn’t visit me in hospital but no help was offered. Their priority was to make a home for my ex (which is fair enough) If there was no kids but there was. They should have been priority. So shows enough about them. They think a mountain of presents at Xmas will help. I’ve came tl realise love, respect are the most important things in life. Do whatever make YOU happy life is too short Em.
Thank you,your right I should what makes me happy. I just need the motivation to do something about it.
Are you in a better place now, after your big changes?
Its strange how things like this make you realise who is really there for you