Hi i lost my beloved hubby last october but i managed to survive the year with my MS but it has progressed and i struggle now to do most things, where i could hoover i have no energy etc. I treat my MS with respect and look after myself, not sure why i bother but i do have 2 daughters 44 and 46 who i love dearly and grandchildren and they still all need me, so i want to be here for them.
i was moving a few months ago to a bungalow in my town but the sale folded a day before exchange.
this had a terrible effect on my health it took several months for me to contemplate moving again. why move you ask? I live in a very large 3 bed house with a massive area of garden. the front is divided in 2 areas, a garden with decking and a large area where you can park at least 5 cars. Out the back the garden is just as large and i just cant keep on top of everything, as well as maintaining the house. i just had to have new electric consumer unit, the flat roof needed replacing. it seems never ending. i have a gardener but it is only when he has time, and i sit there looking at weeds where only a few years ago i would have taken them out.
the house is expensive to keep warm too. so i need to down size.
Now i sold the house straight away and have found a lovely 2 bedroom park home but its about 7 miles from my town and my daughter has health issues and i am not sure how often i will see her although to be fair i dont see her much now. i am going to buy her a car so she has no excuse lol. beside it will get her out. my other daughter runs her own business and has a client close to the park home so can pop in. the home is lovely it has a nice easy maintained garden its lovely inside and i can take my dog and cat.
then i got offered a 1 bedroom sheltered flat in the town. i have to bid for it but i am still no 1. i know this flat my mother in law i got her a flat in the same place. its a well maintained and run shelter. they have lots of things to do there and are very encouraging. there is 247 help via a care line. the flat is very large nice size rooms and a brilliant shower wet room you can walk in. only down side is no garden but an area outside a patio door where you can sit and grass and lots of walking for the dog and behind is access to a big park.
Now i have to pay rent. I dont know what to do. my head wants me to move to the park home but my heart wants me to stay close to my daughter.
i have been here since 1991 and its going to be hard to move. its where i lived with hubby.
My head is spinning. i will still sell the house but i can live off the capital and even give my daughters some money. Or i can buy my park home, but still have a good chunk of money left over and start a new life for myself. if i didn’t have the MS i would have made my decision but my doctor wrote to the council supporting an application for sheltered as i have medical needs.
gulp i am just not sure what to do. I know it is ultimately my decision in the end. I have discussed it with all my family and they just tell me its up to you mum. Decisions decisions. why does having MS make things so complicated i can never make a decision anymore lol. I just need some friends right now to bash this around with. 2 of my friends died last year and my life long friend was rushed into hospital yesterday with a heart attack, so i cant discuss it with her now.
I was hoping as you are all in my situation with MS you might have a different slant on it, i know its my decision in the end. xx