Hello ladies. I’m back, all that stressing and angst for nothing really. I really should take my own advice in relation to life with MS which is “try not to worry too much about what might happen because it might not”
After OH finding it necessary to shout at me a couple of times coupled with “we won’t go” and “I’ll ring and tell her we won’t stay for a meal” neither of which happened, he conceded a point and agreed that we would just go to the family home for the evening and the meal. He also convinced himself that it was all his own idea that it would be easier for me to only spend three or four hours there instead of the eight or so he’d originally intended.
it took us six and a half hours to drive from Lancashire to Suffolk, so we only got there in time to spend the evening with the family anyway. So, having checked in to the hotel, and more importantly using the loo before heading to the family home it meant all would be reasonably well for the bladder issues. As for the knife and fork, I slid my plate across to OH to cut up my food. It was noticed but not commented on, so that was OK too.
The crem and venue for the wake were fine, fully accessible and good accessible loo. Funeral at 3pm. At the venue for the wake for 4.30pm. I knew OH would not want to leave until the last of the family left, so I let him have his own way. He also wanted to join the immediate family at home afterwards, so, having been able to use the loo before leaving the venue at 8.30pm I was happy enough to do that too. We got back to the hotel around 11pm. Gosh I was tired (too tired to sleep if you know what I mean) but OH had got to spend the day how he wanted so peace was restored!
As it had taken so long to get there on Wednesday, and as travelling on a Friday is the worst day of the week to travel, he decided it would be best to set off as soon as we could yesterday morning. It took us nine hours to get back!
Last night in my own lovely bed, the best sleep I’ve had for a week. Lovely!
So ladies, thank you for your support, kindness and understanding. I appreciate it.
Love n hugs Eve xxxxxx