the changes we experience

Argh, not sure if I like this editor page much!  Anyway, that is not what I came onto the forum to say folks.  It has been an interesting few weeks in which change must be embraced I guess.  First and formemost, I have finally applied for DLA and made a formal request to go from 5 days a week to 4 days a week at work.

I have to be honest and say that my preference is to stay at 5 days, not only for the financial side of it but because I love my job and having to reduce hours is another loss, one more to add to the colletion of what has already gone.  Don't get me wrong, I am looking forwards to having that extra day to myself and intend to do my own thing on the wednesday.

The long and short of it is that it takes time to come to terms with all these losses and there are times when all I want to do is scream and shout but that is going to get me anywhere really.  A new wee addition over the last few days is some muscular pain - God bless the MonSter eh!

On a positive side, had my massage this afternoon and felt totally spaced out afer it - woo hoo.  Live well folks, smile when you can and scream if you need to, we are here not because we want to be but because we can help each other and make those understanding noises that you can make because we are there together.

Keep well


Hi Willie

I had one of those really bad days today when i felt like IT had completely enveloped me and made me disappear within IT’s grasp.

But then sanity reasserted itself and I felt I could live with it and cope. But there is so much loss isn’t there? This MonSter really sucks!

I’m trying to find a bright side today and there it is, my four,beautiful children. I think I have been officially maudlin today.

Keep well too

Teresa xx

Hi Willie,


I'm waiting for physio to help my legs as they hurt so much.Is it a massage that they give you as I'm dreading it they want me to do anymore exercises?


Janet xnervous 

Hi Willie

You said that screaming & shouting isn't going to get you anywhere, but I'm not sure that's necessarily true. I know the British way of doing things is to put on a stiff upper lip and put on a brave face, but personally I don't think that's always helpful. My natural tendency is to keep things bottled up, but then I've heard that 'depressing' our emotions can lead to depressions. And chances are it's going to come out somehow anyway. So when I do have a bit of a shout and punch a pillow to get out my frustration, or just let myself have a good cry, it almost always feels better afterwards. 

Changing the topic completely, in case you didn't know if you get DLA then you might be able to get working tax credits, as long as you work over 16 hours a weeks.


Hi Willie.

I can relate to your feeling about your job, my advice hang on to it for as long as possible.

I have now been retired for just over three and a half years, did manage to work up to normal retirement age, on reduced hours for the last couple of years. I was an Industrial Electrical Engineer, at retirement I was offered to stay on for a couple of days a week, as a consultant, but felt I had done enough, that was my big mistake. Like yourself, I loved my job, in fact, I lived to work, not worked to live. I realised this after approx three weeks after retirement, up to then it was the same as being on holiday, but then realised that my life was completely empty without work.

Now yesterday was the same as today, which will be the same as tomorrow, retirement it sucks.

Take care and remember, hang on to that job for as long as possible.

Chris R.

I. El. (Eng). (Rtd).

I know its going to be a bad day when I get out of bed and miss the floor, today is such a day.

thanks guys and gals, I am fortunate to be in an office based environment though I do get out to play now and again lol.  My job is really good as I mentioned and am really well supported by the team around me which is a major bonus.  If I was in a physical job, I would have been gone ages ago.  Anyway, keeping as positive as ever and enjoying the best of it and kicking the worst of it in the backside.  thumbsup