Why are all woman selfish because once a man has m.s. & is labelled disabled woman dont want to know so theres no chance of boy freind/ girl freind & even sleeping with a woman
Hi, I know lots of men who have MS and are in relationships with women , so those women arent selfish!
Maybe you need to re-think your own attitude, or youâll never find that one special person who is waiting for you. Dont let yourself become bitter.
Bouds
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Hi, I have to agree with Bouds, not all women are selfish, just like all men arenât the same, I just donât think youâve met the right one yet and with that attitude you may never, so come on donât be so negative.
Jean
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Sorry mate, but with that kind of an attitude, the ladies arenât exactly going to be queuing up to sleep with you!
When I was in my âwilderness yearsâ (between first & second marriages), I did plenty of online dating. For me, this was pre-diagnosis and even pre-symptoms but Iâd advise that you donât lead with your MS status and introduce it only when it becomes relevant to future progress.
Online Dating is a bit like selling a product but this time the product is You! If you were selling a car, youâd mention all the good stuff like how well it drives, how shiny & clean it is, its service history etc. You certainly wouldnât lead with pointing out the scratches, rust and components about to fail. These things would come to light once theyâve shown theyâre interested, youâre in a more detailed conversation and a little bit of rapport has been established, making it easier for them to be discussed.
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Years ago, I was broken up with by someone I briefly dated - the reason he gave was that it was âtoo much pressureâ that he might have to look after me in the future due to my MS. At the time, I had been diagnosed for around a year and had little to no symptoms. His mum was a nurse and he told me sheâd advised him to break up with me.
That put me off for a long time, and led to me seeking the wrong kind of relationships for a while (ones I knew werenât going to last!) so I didnât have to tell anyone.
However, as soon as I met my partner, I knew I was going to fall for him! So I decided it was only fair to tell him about my MS a few dates in, convinced that he would leg it as well. I even said to him âIf you want to call it off and just leave now, I really wonât hate you and Iâll understandâ.
His response was literally âwhat are you on about, you daft sodâ 
Weâre as solid as ever and heâs the most amazing support. My MS seems to be progressing at the moment, with more frequent and severe flare ups. His support has never wavered, although he does admit that itâs hard sometimes. I think itâs totally healthy for us both to be able to say that! It is hard!
When you find the right person, theyâll understand. Donât lead with your MS - you are so much more than that. Donât resent those you havenât yet met, because of a few bad experiences.
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I am sorry for what he put you though WHAT GOSE AROUND COMES AROUND i hope you are better now,i can hopefully tell if a person is selfish because i ended up having a xxxx up head & injections to carm me down & get me back to reality,every professional person has said to me that a person has no right to be like this & i have told this man bounds or what ever his name is not to coment until he knows all the fact s,he never said any thing like am i alright but we have alsorts or people/ idoits in this world