ruthless (not MS)

Everyday living
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hi gang!

hubby`s just having a sort out of our loft storage room.

I haven`t been up there for at least 8 years. There could be all sorts in hiding for all I know.

So what has he brought down for me to vet, before he chucks it?

There were 2 travel bags, that never travelled anywhere!

a matching pair of smart shoes and bag, which I bought for our youngest`s wedding…14 years ago.

I`ll never get those pretty shoes on again…wore them twice.

A thankyou card, which reads, Thanks Mum & Dad, for our lovely wedding. It ended in divorce just last November.

A sun hat…all bent and mishapen.

an old New testament pocket bible, from when I was at school.

Photos, including one of my 40th birthday birthday.oh how happy i was with everything in my life!

2 cream lamps with duck egg blue shades…

and yes, a cuddly toy! A soft bulldog, with an I love You heart hanging from his mouth. Cant remember getting that! Lucys got that as a companion. she`s eyeing it with mistrust!

Its difficult to part with some stuff, but why keep stuff you know youll never use again?

What have you chucked out which was a bit painful?

luv Pollx.

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I am just in the middle of packing to downsize, we hope to move in about 2 weeks. Its in re-action to not being confident in getting a diagnosis but I am aware I am getting worse, so common sense is prevailing. I have looked round the house and given allsorts away to my daughters and sisters our house is so bare now, I felt really good and strong doing this but now realism is kicking in and I am feeling a sense of loss of everything we have built up over 30yrs of marriage.

hey ho, life is challenging.

so to answer your question a 8 seater patio suite that took me months to find is now in my sisters garden.

x

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Hi, ta for your reply.

Well let`s hope you can enjoy some sunny days sitting in YOUR garden furniture, eh?

Hope the move goes ok. knackering thought!

luv Pollx

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Hi Poll Sounds like generation game lol Our loft is like alladins cave, we have that much stuff up there!! I can still get into ours as we have a proper staircase into it, all be it I dont go in very often would probably never get anything done reminissing over the things that are in it!! Only thing I ever chucked out that was painful was a bundle of letters that my hubby sent whilst in Iraq & Afghanistan and that was by accident. (they were amongst a load of old magazines that I no longer wanted) oh well still have all the memories of them. And have since put the others in a safer place :slight_smile: Amazing what we keep isn’t it? xx

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Sad about the letters.

luv Pollx

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Hi Poll,

Oh how I need to do this…

;-)))) Mary

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hi

when we mved into this house my husband “helpfully” put a load of my stuff right at the back of the attic.

amongst them where a load of paintings by my boys when they were toddlers, these used to be displayed all up the staircase in the old house - my art gallery.

also a load of letters from my mum who died 25 years ago.

even if i could still get into the attic the part were they are is not boarded out so if i ever did get in there i’d fall through the ceiling - dramatic eh?

i hope that one day my boys will dig them out for me.

carole x

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Oh Poll, I couldn’t agree more , why keep stuff you’ll never use again. We have a loft which I don’t go to, and I have never put anything in it, but my husband stores his junk there, I don’t think there is that much stuff but I’d still like to chuck it away, but it’s out of the way and it’s his stuff so I don’t really bother about it. I’m afraid I’m the exact opposite of you though, if I don’t think I’ll use it again then I chuck it out. This annoys my husband and mum no end, my mum can’t bear to throw anything out so now when she says to me “are you throwing that out” I just say “do you want it” so she takes it away, I guess its in her loft, lol. If my husband or children can’t find anything they just say “mums thrown it out” even if I haven’t. Cheryl:-)

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Having spent months getting rid of ‘stuff’ whcih was never needed in the end, before we moved here, my mother who like Cheryl’s can never usually get rid of ‘stuff’ now seems to want to give it all to me! I DON’T want any more ‘stuff’, everybody else seemed to get the message at Christmas and I very happily got no ‘stuff’ apart from the ‘thing’ from my mother…I really wasn’t quite sure what it was when I got it out of the box, apparently it is a trivet, that I will never use and nor will have out, the last thing she brought was a set of placemats(fabric) with serviettes embroiderecd with stags heads, they fit in a pocket on the placemat…yes I remember them as a child, but that doesn’t mean I want them!. We have however found a TV bracket up our new loft, unused, unopened and the right size for our TV in the bedroom, it is the most useful thing that’s been found in any loft in any of my previous houses!

Alison x

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My ex husband was a world class hoarder and gatherer of stuff. I decided to have a house rule that you could only get something new if you got rid of an item of equal size. HA! The only person sticking to the damn rule was me.

I’m divorced now and I have to admit with shame that I’m just as bad. I downsized into a bungalow a year ago and got rid of sooo much stuff but as I look around me there is cr*p all over that needs moving on. The trouble is, even if I don’t want it and wont use it anymore if I paid a lot for it I’m so reluctant to part with it ……

Jane

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It`s been interesting reading about all your hoarding/chucking out.

Wish we could spring clean our internal workings, eh? and chuck out our monsters!

luv Pollx