Hi everybody
Wow this is me throwing it out there. Very difficult for me to do this being a rufty tufty kind of bloke.
I love my wife so so much. I feel like im loosing her. I feel like i can’t give her what she wants what she deserves in a relationship. My ms has hit hard and i can safely say i am scared. Of not having the relationship she deserves not having the relationship i want for her to have. Ms has robbed me of my sex drive and what goes with it. I’ve spent long hours on chat things and doing research into sorting things. Jesus if anyone walked in they would think i was having an affair or chatting someone up. Far from it. I wanna be able to show passion i want to be loving. I want to be complete. Any help or advice i can get. I dont want to be without her. She is everything i have ever wanted in my life…
The effect of MS on relationships is something that is not talked about enough.
I went from a physically strong man, with a strong reliable libido and a social life to someone who is virtually housebound and unable to do DIY and basic chores. I’m not the man I was and I’m still getting used to how my life has changed, how dependent on help I am, even though I’m not that disabled.
I didn’t expect this at 50ish but I am grateful for what I still have. My advice would be to prioritise you relationship. Tell you wife you love her every day. Explain that you understand how hard it is on her. Do as much as you can to help and even though it’s difficult, show your strength to her with your determination to live a good life together.
I can relate to your post. Take care of yourself and don’t allow negative thoughts to gain a foothold.
S