We have been married 20 years , but since her MS has got worse our relationship is struggling , more on my side , ahe has gone very cold , and has no emotions for mw rearly, i feel very lonely most of the time , we hav the odd good day , but most of the time i dont exist, i do everything i can to support her both emotionally and financially , its very unrewarding and often a thankless task , i know im not supposed to moan , i just want her to love me like a husband , and share and show her feelings , but she wont , we often talk about seperating, but i dont want to , im hanging in there , but very hard when you feel so unloved, any suggestions and help would be much appreciated
This is my 1st time on here , my wife has had MS for 17 years , her brain doesn’t work the way it used to , she has issues with her left leg walking any distance is a problem , all this i can cope with , its the lake of emotions and lake of love im struggling with , i feel for anyone that has MS, but i also feel foe there partners as well , its no picnic
Hello Sutton…sweetheart.
your story is sad and I do get it.
Have you told your wife you love her and want to be with her? I expect you have already, from what you say.
Sometimes people with a chronic condition, feel they are a burden and despite loving their partner, they push them away, like your OH is doing. I bet she does love you really and despises herself and her MS.
We celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary next month. For 24 of those years, I’ve had chronic PPMS. I can do very little for myself. 2 carers and hubby do so much for me.
There is no intimacy at all. But I love him and he loves me. I recently asked him if we would marry me all over again and he said without the slightest hesitation. Same goes for me.
I sometimes feel a burden, a nuisance etc but it is what it is.
Is she suffering from depression? Depression often does accompany MS, and not just because having a progressive neurological condition is a real downer, but also can be because the brain itself is being damaged in the areas that control emotions.
Sounds as if you too could do with some emotional support. I hope talking with us on here will help a bit, but maybe also consider if you can get some counselling for yourself. MS is tough on those with it, and those who are close to people who have MS.
Hi there i have rrms . I live with my husband and two girls. I do talk to my husband about how i feel. But i do feel like im not as affectionate towards him maybe abit colder . I think i prefer to lie in bed and have peace at night then sit downstairs with him things like that. Its not because i dont love him anymore its more about how i feel now. I feel so crap a lot of the time and exhausted, hes always full of beans :-). There are days i show him more love than others but to be honest , betime i do what i have to do in the day , i look forward to peace and quiet . It helps me a lot though noing he is near by and here if amd when i need him xx