My wife was diagnosed over 20 years now

over time she has completely given up on the physical side of our relationship

she is still physically active albeit not in the same way she was. She still turns my head but anytime I suggest a bit of fun the answer is a flat no. I am putting her under pressure, or something along those lines. There is zero affection or contact in our relationship. It has been over 3 years since we last …

is anyone else in the same situation and how are you coping I am depressed and angry all the time. Covid isolation has me stuck at home and the loneliness is killing me.

Hi, sometimes when MS strikes, it can deaden certain areas or even make them quite painful to touch.

Perhaps this is what has happened with your wife. I guess you have tried talking to her about this.

Many people are affected like this .

Are there any leaflets in the MS library which could help?


Hello. I am a woman in my 50’s, have RR MS and was diagnosed 2,5 years ago and have had MS for about15-20 years without knowing it. I am in a wonderfully loving relationship with a man but over the last couple of months am struggling to get sexually aroused. My brain is saying yes, but messages don’t seem to get through to the right bits of my body. I miss the sex and enjoyment with my partner and for him.
can anyone advise me.

I believe the MS Society has literature about this too. Have a gander.


Hi, I met my wife when she was 9 years into her diagnosis of SPMS. Our sex life was fantastic at the start (I was 44, she 43) and we married in 2008. After about 5 years she couldn’t manage full intercourse as it was too painful. But she never stopped loving me, even if sometimes i wondered. I see her as the same person i met 15 years ago and can only imagine how sad it makes her that she can’t do the things she used to. But the way I look at it is that we all get older and can’t do things things we used to, and i am sure she hasn’t gone off ‘me’ so it makes me see it from her shoes. We are still attracted to each other and I know she probably thinks I could walk away but I’d never do that. I have my memories of how good it was and I love that I had that time with her. Love is more important than sex in a relationship so as long as you have that, well to me , that’s all you need. But talking to each other openly is the key.

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