I’m searching for more information relating to pregnancy and birth. I am 6 months pregnant, have had 3 MS attacks in my life, approximately 7 years apart and I am greatly concerned about the danger of having another MS attack following the birth of my daughter. I visited my obstetrician today and was told that if I have an MS attack after the birth and cannot look after my daughter, “help” will come in the form of removing my baby from me and placing her into care with social services. I am devastated. I’m an intelligent woman and a teacher. I have recovered fully from my previous MS attacks but the last one left me in a wheelchair for 2 months with a large amount of spasticity. When I first got pregnant I was reassured that I would receive support, at no point did they say they would take my baby from me. Today this is what I have been told, that there is no help, that I have to manage by myself and if it means I cannot feed, wash and clothe my daughter due to spasticity and an inability to walk, rather than providing help at my home they will remove my daughter and place her into care. I was placed into care as a child for 5 years of my life, thankfully I was adopted by a wonderful couple at the age of 7 but I don’t want my daughter to ever have to experience this. Does anyone know where I can get some help and support with this? I only have 3 months left to put something in place and the hospital has not been helpful at all. I’m at my wits end with worry.
sorry but i think that was very unhelpful and wrong for u to be told this. even if s/s do get involved separating u from ur baby will be the last resort. u recovered well from previous attacks-hope any future ones are the same.
i am single mum to 4 kids-3 still at home. s/s involved and they wouldnt dare try to seperate them from me!
they are just guesing re no help available-they find it when neccessary-thats my experience.
enjoy motherhood! its tough but worth it.
ellie x
Hi Anon This sounds like scaremongering to me. This person is very wrong to worry you like this. You don’t need this now. I think that massive efforts are made to keep mother and child together. Also, do you have a good support network of family and friends nearby who you can count on ? I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and impending motherhood. Teresa xx
Hi Anon,
I can’t believe you have been told this. How awful for you.
I am sorry to reply with more questions but…
Do you have a partner/husband/friends/family who could be a back up plan in case you relapse after birth?
Do you live in the uk?
Did you take DMD’s before pregnancy?
I was diagnosed after my second child was born. Social services were never involved at all and i was in relapse. My family rallied round for me and i managed a lot myself. When my health visitor did my sons routine checks (hearing/weight etc) she just said that they could help support me if i found i was struggling.
I didn’t want their help tbh and was lucky as i didn’t need to ask for it.
Teresa.x