MS and relationships

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Hi Deo, you do sound a very caring individual. When we become parents, our children are our priority and that is how it should be. Then when serious health issues join in, we can have great difficulty finding what gets priority… So anything beyond the children and the illness can be even harder to give ample attention to.

What you need to consider is the effect of your girlfriend`s MS might have on your children.

I would say before this relationship moves on any further, you need to get this straight in your own mind.

Speaking personally, as someone who has had MS 22 years and is heavily dependent on others, I try very hard to think of others problems and feelings before my own.

Good luck in whatever happens.

Boudsx

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Thanks for your response Boudica. I appreciate the issues it may cause my children but they are teenagers now and at university soon hence my dating again. Anyway, both boys are very caring themselves and, when they do eventually meet my gf, I am sure they will be supportive of the issues we face. I take your comments on board and will look to have an honest chat to them about MS.

Thanks for your advise.

Stay safe & sane.

KR’s

Deo49

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Thanks Deo and all the best.

Boudsx

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My wife told me to leave her when we first found out she probably had MS,was quite insistent actually but i told her no way.I think by the time she was formally diagnosed she had probably accepted she was stuck with me and pretty much stopped saying it!

By the way i have chatted to someone a few times whos husband had MS and she couldn’t handle it and funnily enough she is single and never met anyone else(think it has been about 18 odd years)and he had met a lovely woman and remarried within about 5 years and was very happy. So i think the moral of this story is get rid of this non committed geezer to allow the possibility of being happy with the right one if they should come along.

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because our m.s. is ever-changing - we tend to become pre-occupied with it. Also our m.s. impacts on a lot of what we do.

I would guess your girlfriend to be very concerned about how her m.s. is going to affect your relationship. One of her possibly unspoken concerns will be how you will respond if her m.s. worsens.

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I seem to be extremely irritable, flying of the wheel at the slightest thing. Do you think that this is a symptom of MS or maybe just my time of life

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First, is that a denial or he is just worried about the things you both can not control?

My take on it is it might be okay or not but if you have your man around encouraging and supporting you a solution will emerge.

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I hope that everything will be great for you. Men are really sensitive regarding diseases or when he’s girls has something that they can’t control. They become really lost sometimes and don’t know how to act. But, if he can’t support you, then he is not the right guy. You should focus on yourself now and understand that your health and you - are the most important. After, you can concentrate and read, for example, https://attractionlaw.org/when-will-meet-soulmate-signs-soulmate-coming/, and understand how attraction law works and how real love feels.

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I hope that everything will be great for you. Men are really sensitive regarding diseases or when he’s girls has something that they can’t control. They become really lost sometimes and don’t know how to act. But, if he can’t support you, then he is not the right guy. You should focus on yourself now and understand that your health and you - are the most important. After, you can concentrate and read, for example, https://attractionlaw.org/when-will-meet-soulmate-signs-soulmate-coming/, and understand how attraction law works and how real love feels.