So I’ve been single for nearly 5 years since me and my husband split the year I got diagnosed(he was a bad egg) it’s took me a long time to get used to telling people I have Ms and getting my confidence back. I used to find when I told people I had it I’d be very quickly ghosted which has knocked my confidence. Now there’s just me and my 8 year old son in the house and I’m lonely I just want an adult conversation. I struggle meeting people now with my confidence being knocked. Has anyone been in same situation and could offer me any help or advice? Thanks 
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Hi linzi, I’d say just be yourself, hold your head high, be confident and reflect your positive self. Having MS doesn’t mean certain outcomes are a given. Live in the here and now, accept only the best for yourself. The rest will follow. Maybe some social interaction online first, build up your confidence. It’s a big wide world out there. Stay safe. Retro.
Hi Linzi. People who ghost you because you have MS are not even worth thinking about. The sort of people worth befriending are those who see you as a person, and not the condition that you have. I agree with Retro, chatting first to people online may well be a good way to build up your confidence.
Linzi
Build friendships first before thinking of a boyfriend.
Once you have a group of female friends you will be in a better, safer position to get yourself out there.
Of course male friendships are as important as female friends.
So make friendships your overarching aim!
Good luck, give your son a hug from me.
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I would say meet new people and make new friends, but this Covid thing made our lives so complicated. If you miss adult conversation talk with your friends, or any cousins maybe? You can meet their friends also, both males and females.
The new relationship will come sooner or later, but someone who ghost you because of MS - he doesn’t deserve you.
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When it comes to online dating here are my tips:
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Know your goal and use an appropriate platform
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Nice pic of your face, nice pic of you with mates, nice pic of you doing something you enjoy
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Be honest but fairly brief in your bio, read metrodate review to know how to arrange your profile
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Be ready for some nutters, some very lonely people and some entirely normal people
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Enjoy it. It’s fun.
Hi, Paul here, you’re absolutely right, my wife and I separated over 3 years ago, and now, my only callers are the odd friend and my family. I miss female company, and everyday conversation. Paul
Hi Linzi, I want you to be encouraged, girlie! We, as human beings, are overwhelmed by all kinds of problems, but the worst is when it happens to our health. So I want you to be encouraged by me, by others here. Online is so vast and here you find pleasant people to talk to, especially dating sites. For example, (removed by moderator), where he is 100% trustworthy and open-minded. Here I met Li! We have conversations until midnight! I learned a lot from him: to love myself, take care of my soul, and accept all the blows of this damn life that I love too much!
I’ve been exactly at the same situation. I would suggest you find some hobby clubs, local communities and maybe dating sites as was suggested before.We had similar discussion with my friend today and we are both not sure is elite singles any good? The last but not least - always say “yes” when people offer you to join some activity, even if its ew and you never tried that before)
Don`t worry about it, you have to love yourself!!!
I’m in the same boat and have an 8year old too. I haven’t friends but I have told very close friends to me. My concern is my walking and balance so don’t want to meet anyone
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Hi Nix, chatting first to potential dates is probably the way to go, once you’re good with that and getting on perhaps then would be the time to mention your MS and any concerns you have, if your potential date can’t or won’t accept that, well maybe they’re best avoided.
Your MS doesn’t make you any less of a person, in fact it makes you more of imo.
Good luck. Retro. 
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Hello,
I have the same feelings and it hurts, I am 26 years old and the past 4 years I have been single, my life came to a halt with no progress at all in any field just new lesions. I get ghosted from dates and everyone even friends ghost me because a friend with a crutch is a burden. Stay strong guys 
Hey Scar, I have to say any ‘friends’ who see you as a burden because you have a walking aid are no friends at all and don’t deserve your friendship.
If you get ghosted on dates, take the positive out of it, take it as a close shave and how lucky you’ve been not to be hooking up with someone so shallow.
All the best.
Retro.
Hi all, life throws alot, but you are never on your own, I am also looking for new friends, connections online or face to face, just drop me a message, happy to chat x x take care all.
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I’d say just be yourself and be confident
I was also very lonely as I moved to a new city and knew almost no one. I spent all my free time at home and decided to try to communicate online. I found a young guy who had many hobbies similar to mine. It was a lot of fun for us to correspond, but a few days later I lost my phone and didn’t remember the password from the app, so I turned to meetme customer service ( https://meetme.pissedconsumer.com/customer-servicе.html ). Fortunately, I was able to restore my account and now we are in a relationship with this guy and we are happy!)
Dear Linzi,
I wish you will find not only true love but also a true friendship. Please, do not give up.
I send you imaginable hugs. I believe everything will be alright :3