Hello! Just wanted some life experience advice. I have 2 kiddies but would really like a 3rd. I have fairly mild ms, but since my second I have had 2 relapses (he’s under a year) and I haven’t recovered particularly well from the second one, if it’s gonna get better it’s taking its sweet time. I can’t say why but I guess young kids take their toll on your body,both the pregnancy part and then the lack of sleep and rest bit that goes with having young kids.
im just wondering if it would be totally stupid to have another baby! Do people think that having babies impacts ms badly? Do you think relapses are a consequence of late nights and night feeds and lack of sleep? Do you think it doesn’t make a difference?
plus there’s the issue of medicine. I’d rather come off my dmd’s before trying to conceive without knowing how long it will take to get pregnant.
Any thoughts welcome, word of wisdom and experience would be greatly welcomed too!
Thanks in advance!
Hi, mmm, a difficult one, which there will be a wide variation on depending how having babies has affected msers.
Having babies is hard when we are fit and well and yeh, they do take it out of you.
Lots of folk herabouts who have relapses, but dont have little uns to care for , will probably say it isnt lack of sleep that causes relapses.
Relapses are part and parcel of MS…and some of them go on so long and are extremely debilitating.
So I think you may need to think long and hard before going for a 3rd baby…or coming off your dmds…without them you could be quite a lot poorlier!
Look forward to reading what others say.
pollxx
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hi alixmarie
you will need loads of advice from your ms nurse and the obstetrician.
carole x
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thanks for taking the time to reply guys.
CatwomanCarol, I know you are definitely right. I do need to have a chat with the nurse and see what she thinks.
Boudica, I’m not even sure if it’s exactly the lack of sleep but lack of sleep runs me down and gets me more stressed or less able to handle areas maybe… I think my labour and birth might have had something to do with the relapses I’m having now. Was long and hard and generally a huge assault on my body. Was really quite well after my first! I did go straight onto the dmd’s after my first and didn’t with he second. As usual with ms, I suspect it is multi factorial.
Will go see the experts and see what they think. I guess I just wanted some real life, lived it experience.
Thanks again
xx
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hi again
with your second baby having a difficult birth, would you opt for a c-section?
like you my first was easy and my body felt exactly the same as pre-pregnany.
my second was horrible. i had had gastro-enteritis and was so weak i could hardly stand up.
he was a breech and ripped me to shreds.
so i definitely would not have had a third.
now i’m too old and have ms, rarely have sex so no problem.
carole x