Sorry but I need a moan. I have been on the floor wrapping Christmas presents the last 2 nights. My family’s and my husbands family’s. after both “wrapping sessions” I have been in agony and not been able to walk or even get up afterwards due to “dead” legs/hips. I know I prob shouldn’t be doing it but if I don’t who will! Well today my dear husband brought the Christmas tree down from the loft and is now led on the sofa “apparently” unable to walk, yet he has been to the fridge 3 times for a beer! Also keeps commenting on how “I dot understand how much pain he is in”!!! I am really really struggling to have any sympathy. Is this wrong of me!!!
Anyonomous Did you marry my ex husband? Only joking of course but that was my ex all over. I once remember having a really bad relapse lost feeling from my chest down it was xmas eve and I’d not wrapped one present 
he came in drunk fell asleep on our daughters bedroom floor and I was that cross I beat him with a roll of xmas wrapping paper only thing he did was honk all over the floor. All I can say is thank god for my family who all came round and helped me to wrap (even there own gifts) You totally have my sympathy sending you hugs and strength to get through and take it easy you still have at least 3 weeks or so. xxx
I am so sorry anon about your situation. Would it be possible for you to wrap the presents whilst sitting at a table, may stop you having the trouble and pain of having to get up? No it’s not wrong of you to feel the way you do, I hope you don’t attempt to put the Christmas tree up, wait until he’s able to do it. I’d also be inclined to let him get his own dinners as well. You have my sympathy and I sincerely hope he feels guilty when he wakes up to your pain. Sending (((((HUGS)))))
Janet
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Thanks very much. Just to top it off I am now sat downstairs with my poorly daughter!!! His back ache is to bad for him to manage!!! Been a long time since I saw 3;15 AM!!! Awe well pain killers and cuddles of my daughter! Thanks
Sympathy - I think not. Just tell him he has another 3 weeks to put the tree up!!
As for wrapping presents - pressie bags and tissue paper are a Godsend.
Liz
Hi, it`s been years since I was able to get down to the floor. I wrap pressies at the table, if they are too big for my lap tray.
My hubby brought our tree down yesterday and for the first time 2 of my granddaughters, who live away, were here to help me decorate it. Treasured memories.
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No, it’s not wrong of you to think like that. I think men live on a different planet, they are a different species and they don’t think like us. I also don’t think they mean to be unkind, it just comes out that way. My husband was going out in the car on Friday evening, he wasn’t on a night out or anything, he was just going out of the house by car. I suggested that he could drop our nephews birthday present off while he was out. He struggled to process this request and eventually decided that he couldn’t do it because he “wasn’t going anywhere near there”, despite the fact that our nephew stays no more than a two minute drive away from us! I digress, could you sit at a table to wrap the presents or as suggested use gift bags, that’s a really good idea, I might try that myself. Cheryl:-)
Not all of us are like that! (though Upytupy’s issue rings a bell ). I did go out on Saturday night driving/pub meet up but not drinking. Arranged to pick my 16yr old up after he had been at a party. It did end up a 30 mile detour in the end at midnight!
Leave the tree for him to put up but if you have any visitors, you can comment that ‘the tree will go up when his back stops hurting or he runs out of beer!’
I think it really depends on your perspective. I spent seven years feeling rubbish before I was diagnosed with ms. For most of that time people were not very sympathetic, I appeared lazy sometimes or lacked the will to do things. Of course the problem hasn’t gone away entirely but to know I’m not lazy and there is a reason I feel the way i do gives me an inner strength of belief, that others just can’t relate to my problems within my life, and it’s not their fault.
It’s often easy from the outside to look at someone who appears fine and accuse them of being lazy, perhaps it’s worth remembering that although you have ms you look fine and shouldn’t immediately assume someone else is just being lazy because they look fine.
We all have off days, we all don’t feel like doing things, we all have those “what about me?” momments where we compare our struggles to others.
Maybe he really is lazy, maybe he really is hurt…you can talk to him or you can think bad things about him. One will improve your relationship, one will detract from it.
I am aware sometimes through the frustration that i cannot do things easily I get annoyed at others for not doing them, that’s unfair. Even well people still feel tired and get ill. Just because you are not proven to have an excuse doesn’t mean you need one. We all have momments where we need to be a bit selfish, it’s how we deal with things.
I’m guessing you probably just wanted sympathy babe, but it’s worth thinking about!