I need help

New diagnosis and before diagnosis
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Hello everyone! I am new here. I am looking for help, because my girlfiend is recently diagnosed with MS. You will see little more details below in the post.

I am apologizing in advance for my English and errors, we are from Serbia.

I desperately cry for help. My girlfriend (20 years) got administered in the hospital two weeks ago with MS like symptoms. She got numbness on one side of her face, leg and hand, she got coordination issues, and difficulty walking, and also slurred speech. A few days after administration she got better. I don’t know what drugs she got, because it was not on her temperature chart, and i didn’t get to speak with the doctors. She had an LP, an MRI, and blood sampling every day. Then her father forbade us to even talk on the phone, because he believed that i gave her the symptoms she was feeling, and that she get the disease because of me (her father thinks that i have been cursed, so that her daughter is sick. He went to see somebody, who deals with ocult subjects. That woman told him that we are not allowed to be together, and then they did some rituals). Even though the doctors didn’t say nothing about a diagnosis. My girlfriend got very stressed because of the whole situation, and because we were not allowed to speak. Her neurological and cognitive symptoms went haywire from that point on. She got troubles with urinating herself, understanding speech, even to answer on questions like: What high school did you graduated? Her answers are like this: I am 7th grade in elementary school. She got released from the hospital a few days ago with a diagnosis of MS, and a recommendation to go to a rehabilitation center for 20 days. The definite diagnosis will come after that. When i went to her house to see her, her father didn’t let me in, and forbade me to go there, even to call her, or her father. He said that when he asks my girfriend who i am, she doesn’t remember. And if he asks does she love me, she says no. Can this be a symptom, or her father is lying to me, so i stop questioning about her? I love her endlessly, no matter what. She gave me the purpose of living.
My question is: What can i do to help her? Will she get better if she sees me? I know her father won’t let me near her. But i can’t explain him that she needs me now the most.

Thank You for your time!
Best regards!

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Blimey Kristian, My heart goes out to you. You have so much to cope with. From your post you obviously love your girlfriend very much. I would say that her father is not doing the right thing and should let you see her. However you have no standing as to be totally honest you are only the boyfriend not a husband. Sorry to sound harsh as I know in your heart you feel more. May I ask how long you have been seeing your girlfriend? Her father I consider foolish in consulting the occult. I do not know much about this but it sounds extremely dangerous to me. To say that you are cursed and that is why she got sick is outrageous and untrue. I would not believe her father when he says that she doesn’t love you. I would say be patient and wait for her to be admitted to a rehabilitation centre. This will be best for her and she will get the help she needs. Also she will be away from her fathers influence. Hopefully you will get a chance to see her. I do believe her father is doing what he considers best for your girlfriend although in my opinion he is misguided. Are there any other family members who may be able to help you? Wishing you well and good luck. Min

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Thank you very much for your reply and sympathy flowerfairymin!

We are in a relationship for more than 2.5 years. My girlfriend spent most of the time at my house, she went home every day only for a couple of hours, so that her father doesn’t get angry.

I know that consulting the occult is very dangerous, as of what i have been researching about that, it only makes things worse, and that perfectly makes sense. My girfriends cognitive abilities have gone worse exactly from the moment her father visited that women who deals with occult subjects. He should search for a priest and ask help from him, and not this kind of thing.

Unfortunately her father influenced the whole family, her mother, sister, and the sisters family too (she is married).

My girfriend goes to the rehab center with her mother, so that is bad too, because she is under influence too. They will not allow me to see her at the rehab center either.

The worst of all is that my girlfriend probably thinks that i have no interest in her, or that i don’t even exist. I don’t know what to think anymore.

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Thank you very much for your reply and sympathy flowerfairymin!

We are in a relationship for more than 2.5 years. My girlfriend spent most of the time at my house, she went home every day only for a couple of hours, so that her father doesn’t get angry.

I know that consulting the occult is very dangerous, as of what i have been researching about that, it only makes things worse, and that perfectly makes sense. My girfriends cognitive abilities have gone worse exactly from the moment her father visited that women who deals with occult subjects. He should search for a priest and ask help from him, and not this kind of thing.

Unfortunately her father influenced the whole family, her mother, sister, and the sisters family too (she is married).

My girfriend goes to the rehab center with her mother, so that is bad too, because she is under influence too. They will not allow me to see her at the rehab center either.

The worst of all is that my girlfriend probably thinks that i have no interest in her, or that i don’t even exist. I don’t know what to think anymore.

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I apologize for the two same replies! I dont know how that happened, maybe i have pressed “POST” two times accidentally. Excuse me!

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Hi Kristian No worries posting twice. Trying to think of things to help you. I know you say your girlfriends cognition has declined. But the important thing is to find out whether she has capacity to consent. If she does have capacity to consent. Then if she is asked if she would like to see you and she replies yes then you should be able to see her at the rehab centre away from the family. I would perhaps ask to see someone of influence at rehab centre. Ask to see some manager. if you are seriously worried about her father consulting the occult past and maybe future. You are perfectly within your rights to report this to management at the rehab centre as this is a potential safeguarding issue and/or risk to your girlfriend. Who knows what wacky dangerous occult cure for MS her father is going to come up with. Sorry I could be blowing this out of proportion. Take good care of yourself Min

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I can’t offer any help bit I really feel for both of you Min has offered good advice. Her father will think he’s doing the right thing but…, cults isn’t the way ahead X

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Thanx for both of you!

The truth is that i don’t know in what psychical condition is my girlfriend, because her father says that she is depressed, but sometimes agressive, and i just don’t know is this condition from the MS, depression, or something else went wrong with her.

I only know that when i spoked with my girlfriend last time (when she was in the hospital), she said to me that not to be mad at her. And i agreed not to call her, because of her father, and for her to see that anything her father says is nonsense. She told me she will call me, when she gets home. And i don’t know if she is not calling because of her father, or because of cognitive/physical impairment.

We live in a small village here in Serbia, so when i’ve met her father at a dentist today, i asked her how she is doing. Her father had to answer because of the other people that were near us (so he doesn’t be rude in other people’s eyes-probably). That is when he told me that she has agression attacks, and depression. That she takes somekind of pills, and cannot walk. Then i told him to give her vitamins, especially Cholecalciferol, and to take her out in the sun everyday for a short time. Then he said: what the doctors say, that will be given to her.

I don’t know what the regulations here in Serbia for the consent are, but if she would want to see me, she will be probably scared to call me because of her father, and the “brainwash” that he gave to her.

Nonetheless it is a good idea, so is reporting her father to the rehab center management. Thank you! I will have to wait her to go to rehab though,and i don’t know when that is going to be.

As you can see i don’t know almost anything, because they have trapped her inside and i cannot reach to her, and do not have the rights to do it.

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And don’t worry flowerfairymin, You are not blowing this out of proportion.

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Is it possible that she has a “nervous breakdown” because of the too much stress?

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Can I just wish you good luck mate.

Don’t know if you have thought of the possibility of writing a letter and maybe getting one of her “allowed” friends or family, who likes both of you to deliver it.

Sounds a bit underhand, but at least you will know if she then wants to see you and she will know that you want to see her and you are thinking about her. Knowing that people care helps the mind and soul.

Гуд luck (hope that’s right-Google translate is not the best!)

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Thank you! Dew1jack

Yes i have thought about that already, but is a bit risky at the moment, because who knows what her father told to her about me, and maybe in her weak moments she believed it, and i am afraid that that would cause her stress at the moment and probably worsening. The other thing is that their parents are around her 24/7, they never leave her, even if she has allowed friends as visitors. I found out that she is in kind of a “home prison”.

Thank you for your effort!