Hi GM, do nothing. I can answer this open and honestly as i too have a sister and when i was diagnosed with PPMS her idea of going out and mine were two different things.
for example. go to a garden centre right, sounds nice doesnt it? 2 things.
1 it would wipe me out for the rest of the week.
2 it just reminds me of all the plants and potting i cant do anymore and i ended up more depressed.
Our best support really was skype. or face time. I found all this wanting to take me out and help me suffocating, even though the intentions were not there.
Now my brother i get on great with. we can argue about politics and have a good laugh lol.
My sister means well and i know that and i know she cares about me. but her idea is going off on holiday, walking, and complaining she feels tired too so she knows how i feel, oh yes and she gets aches and pains.
I think the best thing you can do is send her a little card. perhaps with sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis sis, if you need anything you know where I am.
to suddenly help around the house etc well. also i always say why does it take a diagnosis like PPMS to suddenly go to her for coffee and help her around the house? she has family at home. let them absorb this news first. but make the contact but let her decide where to take it from there.
My sister and I, now chat on facebook about once a week. I know if i need her she is there for me. but my daughters are my go too as they dont make me feel suffocated or disabled.
No you cant help yourself sadly it always ends up that way. PPMS well hun i have had it since 2000. No one believed me in my family until i got diagnosed in 2016 then suddenly even though the situation for me was the same as always i had all this interest and advise, and help. where were they when i was struggle prior to the diagnsosis.
the label is just that but the affects of the disease were always with me. My sister even got irritated with me, when i said i couldnt face the hour journey to her place to see her fancy new caravan, surely sitting in a car cant tire you can it she actually said that. Once i had the label she was all over me lol.
Your a lovely and caring sister, all your sister right now needs is to know your there for her if she needs you. xxxxx good luck.
PS. MY IDEA OF BLISS… AN afternoon watching Nowtv uniterrupted lol.