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Caring for someone with MS
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Hi all,

This is my first post on here and so I’ll try and make it as much to the point as i can.

My sister is 58 and has had progressive MS for 37 years. She has been living with her “partner” who has never really helped her and we’ve recently found out that he’s been seeing another woman for the past few years. I’ve spoken to my sister and she’s confirmed this and that they are now just friends but he’s a controlling bully at the best of times and she has no stake in the bungalow where they live (it has a hoist etc) but she’s also said she’s happy there but we all think this is not true and that she is saying this as she has nowhere else to go.She is very independent but of late she is struggling to do simple task such as feeding herself and her “partner” is never around to help (not that he ever did much anyway)

Due to the breakdown of their relationship she doesn’t like it when he’s there and so myself and the rest of her family and friends think she would be better off in her own place but as she has no stake in the current property and no money herself (i.e savings etc) then who do we speak to on her behalf as we feel we’d get more acceptance of her moving if we had the facts in the first place ?

Hope this makes sense but if someone could help or advise ?

Thanks

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Hi, I think you are very kind siblings but do be careful. Have you had any discussion with your sisters partner (ex)? You need to hear both sides of the story. Is there any way she could move in with you, or another family member? If thats not possible, then have a word with a social worker to enquire about other accommodation possibilities. Maybe sheltered housing would be suitable, where there would be help on hand should your sister need it. I hope things work out for your sister`s benefit. Boudsx