I feel really ashamed about this, but I live in mortal fear of having visitors, and I can’t have friends round, because I’ve let the housework get so out of control.
I still work, and have a salary, so I know folks will say: “Get a cleaning lady! Problem solved!”. But then I feel I’ve got to clean up before I engage the cleaning lady, so I’m only asking her to do the routine maintenance - not fix it from scratch.
I’m quite a quiet person, not that keen on entertaining, so most times, it doesn’t really matter. But now I have a friend wanting to visit from France. It’s the end of November, so plenty of notice, but I’m already really worried about it! I’d much rather meet for a meal/drink on neutral territory, outside the house, but feel really bad saying he can’t come here.
It’s so bad, I’m almost tempted to “lose” his e-mail, and say: “What a pity! I never got it!”
Has anyone else found a successful way to make themselves do the housework? Alternatively, has anyone had any success with the strategy of being honest, and saying: “Look, it’s best for me that you not come to the house, because it makes extra work”? (My friend does know I’m not well, and was very upset). I know he’d almost certainly say: “Don’t worry, it’s you I’m coming to see, not the house!” But I’m sure anyone who’s been in this position will understand it’s not quite as simple as that. I will still stress about it, even if he’s said: “Don’t worry, I’m not interested in that”.