Finding a partner?!!!?

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Hello all,

I’ve not been on here for years and it’s changed so much. It’s not as user friendly as it used to be but maybe I just need to get used to it :grinning: My husband died suddenly 2 1/2 years ago and ironically he was the healthy one!!! :rofl: I’ve just joined a dating site and blimey, it’s a mine field!! If I’m honest I’m not even sure I’m ready but people keep telling me I need to move on! In my profile write up I declare my MS as I believe in being honest. Has anyone found love on here or on a dating site? xx

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Hi Val, thank you for your kind reply :smiley: I get the feeling this site doesn’t get used as much as it used to. I may be wrong. Thank you again.

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Well Covid and social distancing doesn’t help in getting to meet people by more normal means - hobbies and social activities, so in these times online dating has an advantage over older methods!

Hope your mine detectors are in good working order to sift out the chancers from the genuine people. Good luck!

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Hi Lottie

I spent a few years on & off a dating site. A few suggestions from a man’s PoV:

  1. Don’t put your status as widowed. It can bring out the predators. Single.
  2. Don’t be too honest. The box where you write your profile isn’t a confessional. Maybe allude to symptoms but don’t give a label as most people, ignorant of the condition, will jump to conclusions.
  3. Don’t lie either! You can say you don’t enjoy sport or walking without saying you can’t do them. However, certain things would have to be declared, such as if you are a wheelchair user.
  4. The right person will want to get to know you for you, not your diagnosis. In fact, in spite of your diagnosis.

Good luck - it’s a zoo out there, full of people motivated by self-interest, but you might meet “the one”. I did, 5 1/2 years ago and we’re married now although in hindsight, whilst symptomatic when we met, I wasn’t diagnosed until 9 months ago. It’s tough on her too, but she’s dealing with my diagnosis with courage & dignity and most of all, together.

Graeme

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Thank you for your advice Graeme. This could be where I’ve been going wrong as I’ve always been very honest so admit to my MS and that I’m a widow right from the start. Perhaps I need to rethink this!!! :smiley: Congratulations on meeting ‘the one’ and Thank you again :slight_smile: xx

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You’re right, covid has not helped things but I wasn’t much of a social animal beforehand anyway so online dating was always likely to be the only way I would meet someone! Thank you for your kind wishes :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes: xx

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My single friends (and my wife :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:) have joked that I should be a dating coach after all my experience!!

Seriously though, if you need some help more privately, feel free to message me :+1:

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Thank you. I appreciate it :smiley:

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