Oh gosh, I know it’s not unheard of, but 39/40 really is early for the menopause!
Sorry to side with your mum on this one, but I reckon that needed checking out - especially if it’s not a known family thing - i.e. she was the same.
I mean, yeah, I’ll be pleased to be rid of them too - but if it had been more than ten years earlier than anticipated, I would have had concerns. Does your doc know? Has it never been queried why you stopped at 40ish?
Not that I think it’s anything to do with the MS, and if you’ve gone four years with nothing else untoward happening, we can say it’s unlikely to be cancer or anything, but I’m still left wondering why.
But assuming it was a natural, if early, biological menopause, I agree it seems unlikely you’d still be having transitional symptoms four years on.
I dunno, what is it with mums? Before I was diagnosed, mine was quick to say things weren’t right. In fact, when I was diagnosed, she even went so far as to insist she “always knew it” - even though MS had never, ever been discussed in the family - the only thing we all accepted I had was “a touch of arthritis” - as we then assumed it was. Plus she kept calling it muscular dystrophy for several months after I was diagnosed, so it’s quite obvious she didn’t “always know” I had MS - or even what MS was - but I digress.
Now we do know what it is, nothing’s ever MS. It’s always: “But you are 49, you know”.
“Yes, but you weren’t like this at 49, Mum - neither is anyone else I know! It’s the illness!”
Not that I’d wish it on anyone, but I’m glad it’s not just me with the night-time bed changes and the damp jym-jams.
I used sometimes to wonder if I’d had an accident of a different sort - and I do have a waterproof mattress cover, just in case that should ever happen. But no, I think it’s just leaky pores - not leaky anything else so far.