I know where you’re coming from Max.
I work full time. By the time I have finished work I am totally drained and have no energy to look after myself or my house. I’ve heard of this thing called ‘the spoon theory’ which suggests that we have a finite amount of energy and that you have to be careful how you use it. By the time I have worked a full day, I have nothing left. I live in a house that is an absolute mess - to the point where I am too ashamed to let anybody come and visit me. I am single and have no family near by to help me look after my home. I can’t afford a cleaner and I can’t afford to drop hours at work. I am a total mess. I’ve been off work sick for the last few weeks because I was pushing myself too hard and I ended up crashing. Nerve pain, dizziness, yadda yadda.
I applied for DLA when I was first diagnosed in 2007 and got a letter back from the DWP saying that I wasn’t cooking for myself because I “lacked motivation”. I appealed the decision but that failed.
If you manage to fine a way through things then please let me know. I’m drowning here.