I need to emotionally off load what I am going through right now.
On the 1st of December, I discovered that my husband of 25 years, partner of 34 years, has been unfaithful to me. The discovery was made by our 21year old daughter, who is devastated by its content, as is our eldest daughter who is 23. MS has been part of our family for almost fifteen years, our girls have grown up with it, they have been amazing support to their dad. I have tried to be an enabler to my husband, who has had good times and very bad ones due to his progressive diagnosis.
The nature of his unfaithfulness has broken my heart, I am struggling to come to terms with the devastation this has caused, it has ripped a gaping hole in our family. We have decided to part, my husband discussed this with his M& team, their response upset me, as they stated ’ MS is a difficult diagnosis for relationships to cope with.’ I want to shout from the roof top, ‘we have not struggled with this’, every decision we make, takes into account our family member ‘MS’
My mother in law has subjected our daughters and myself to the hight of abuse stating, ‘anything he has done is your fault’, and she has expressed many unforgivable home truths, about what she has always though of us. This has only added to my distress.
I want to point out that not all breakups are due to the fact that partners can’t come to terms with a diagnosis, sometimes we are the ones who are hurt the most.
Thank you for this precious space to express myself, as I am feeling isolated and lonely right now x