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Good afternoon all!

I’m not sure, but I think I did post about the trouble I was having with a long serving carer I had.

She walked out mid shift on 13th November last, in a terrible temper over a covid difference of opinion we had.

She put herself on the sick following that and has been a real pain since…claiming all sorts of different reasons why she couldnt work.

Well, today I got her resignation letter. I feel so relieved it’s over. It has caused sleepless nights and such stress.

I am sorry it all went sour, after her working for me for 9.5 years. We did have some great times together, but she turned quite nasty in the end.

I now have a good agency and a regular carer.

And BREATHE!!!

Boudsx

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These situations are stressful and I’m glad it has been sorted - RELAX!

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Was this the wonderful Bev Bouds? What a shame. Nothing lasts forever it seems. Onwards and upwards.

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Glad it’s sorted for you Bouds, stress is one thing we need to steer clear of.

Pam x

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Hi, thanks all for your supportive comments.

Yes Poppy, it was the ‘wonderful’ Bev.

In previous years, she was unbelievably marvellous.

We had some really good times…laughing, singing, joking around…holidays too…

What changed her was in 2019…her mum had cancer and I was so supportive and let her take time off when she needed, still paid her, changed my plans to accommodate her. Her mum did get better and was free of cancer.

Then when covid hit…oh boy! did Bev get OTT about everything?. She became fanatical…refused to sleep in the same room as me for 7 weeks…incase we breathed each other’s air…made it difficult if I wanted to go out at all (I was never shielding),

I felt so uncomfortable with her.

The night she walked out was because my daughter, who was living with us, had her fiance visit. He was a single man, lived alone, didnt work, so mixed with no-one and became part of our bubble.

Bev told me off for letting him visit and said I had stabbed her in the back, was taking the piss and didnt care about her mum!!!

Her husband rang me and said he wanted me to sign a waiver, incase Bev gave me covid and I sued her…for heaven’s sake eh?

She also said she thought I was faking my weakness and made her move me when I knew her back hurt…again…it was her job for chuff sake!

So this am I rang my legal advisor, who has guided me through all this, doing everything right to the letter, to tell her Bev has resigned.

I am gobsmacked at what she said I have to do…write to Bev and ask her if she is sure about her resignation…incase she decides to do me for constructive dismissal…eh? wtf???

I rang Direct Payments and asked if this is what I should do. They said they have known cases where PAs have resigned and then gone to ACAS an got advice about suing their ex employer.

Well, I have googled the subject and have read that I dont fit any of the categories and am ok.

At least I hope so.

And there was me thinking it was all over.

Humph!!!

Boudsx

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Oh Poll I am gobsmacked I didn’t realize this was Bev I assumed it must be someone else.

I am so sorry you have gone through this terrible event, just shows how people can change.

I truly hope this is all behind you and you never have to put up with such dreadful behaviour again.

Take care and enjoy the sunshine my friend.

Pam x

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Wow. Who needs this added stress to an already difficult situation?! So sorry things turned out like this. Hopefully this will be the end to it.

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Oh Bouds,

What an awful situation you’ve been in.

Bev has been a great support to you over the years and it’s so sad your relationship has ended so badly.

This Covid situation has effected every single person in the country in so many different ways. Especially the recent lockdown with cold dark days.

I hope you can move on now lockdown is relaxing a bit and the weather is getting better.

Take care

Jen

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Update;

my hubby took a letter to her house yesterday, incase the easter post delayed it.

I’d copied a template letter from my legal advisor. It offered Bev the opportunity to ring me to discuss what’s happened and to see what, if any support, I could give her, whilst she is unwell.

I meant not a word of it of course…it was what I had to do to avoid being seen as an uncaring employer…after the way she has treated me…huh! She can go whistle up her kilt…as my mum used to say.

She has until 6th April to respond.

Hope she ignores it. I had the mother of all dizzy heads yesterday.

Happy Easter!

Boudsx

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Sorry to hear , that you are having all this grief.

M

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Bouds

How very dare she?

you will be fine, grand idea to get legal advice.

now relax and don’t forget to breathe xxx

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All this is just disgusting it really is.I feel for you as you should not have to be going though all this added stress.The direct payment scheme is the worst thing ever. You would not have to be doing all this if the SS system had not changed to direct payments.As if we have not got enough to go through,and now we have to be employers too.The worlds gone mad it really has.I hope it all gets sorted for you,the so called carer should be ashmed of herself putting all this on you.

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I will be counting days until April 6. Just when you thought it was all over. I doubt she will come back to you writing a letter. Just a few more days Bouds and it will be over xx