I’m in a real quandry right now. As if MS isn’t bad enough and I’ve just had another horrible relapse and am trying to pick myself up day-by-day. I am so depressed though and am seeing a counsellor 2-3 times per month for a chat.
Okay enough about me as you don’t want to hear that, after all you’ve all got your own MS problems to deal with.
But…I now suspect my 18 year-old daughter is stealing from shops on a regular basis. She doesn’t work at the moment so gets her Jobseekers Allowance every two weeks and has to pay my wife some rent from that and she owes me £300 as she keeps going over her allowed minutes on her mobile phone contract so runs up quite a bill, which comes out of my account. My mobile phone bill has got 5 phones on it: mine, my wife’s, my 2 daughters and my son. Everyone else is fine and keeps in their allotted minutes each month so their bills are fine, but not this one. Tonight she has come home with a bag of clothes from a ‘cut-price’ store that typically sells clothes in a ‘jumble’sale’ fashion - you will know who I mean if you have ever shopped there, as there are usually clothes scattered over the floor from where they have fallen off display stands or hangers. I asked where she got the money from to buy them as I knew she didn’t have any of her own this week and she said they hadn’t cost anything, and from her look I knew she meant she had stolen them. My wife and I started to challenge her as we know she stole some ‘tatty’ jewellery from there a few weeks ago, something that my daughter admitted to, but tonight she just said ‘times are hard you know’ and stormed out of the house and up the road to her friend’s house.
‘Times are hard’ - yes don’t we bloody know it!
- It’s hard having a chronic illness for which there is no cure and never knowing from day to day whether we are going to be able to function anywhere near ‘normally’ (whatever that is - it has been so long now I have forgotten what ‘normal’ means);
- It’s hard knowing I’ll never be able to work again and having to put up with being in this state for ever;
- It’s hard losing one’s independence by having to have a carer come in each morning to help me shower and dress as well as being taken to regular doctor and hospital appointments every month;
- It’s hard when the government are making noises about getting as many people off benefits as possible, making many of us going through degrading medical examinations to see if we ‘really are’ disabled, as if anyone in the government would know what that means anyway…I am pretty sure there is no one in the government who has any disability, though if anyone knows better I stand to be corrected. I think that us disabled people are just a nuisance to the government anyway.
So what do I do? I know what I want to do…wring her damn neck…but as my left hand is useless I could only do it with my right hand so probably not possible. Do I report her to the police, maybe through Crimestoppers, where I can make an anonymous report, or do I just tell her I am going to the police about it? Or do I ignore it, but if so, why should I? No matter how hard the last few years have been for my wife and I, even though our income has more than halved we have still managed to provide for the children and have NEVER, I repeat NEVER, resorted to stealing anything and as I used to be a Special Constable for the police before MS showed it’s unkind head I know I couldn’t do it anyway.
What would you do? Would you shop her or ignore her? Have you had experience of this with a member of your family? I welcome all helpful responses to help me deal with this.
I’ve got to go now as I need sleep, but doubt I’ll get much tonight.