Just a thought - why when people find out you have ms do they say ‘you’re looking really well’. Why would I not be looking well? Was I not ‘looking well’ before I told you?! If I was having a bad day then yes I’d be at home in bed but if I’m out and about then I’m feeling ok trying to get on with life! I’m not dying people so please don’t assume that because I have ms I should look and act like I am! Rant over! Enjoy your day. L xx
I LIKE being told I look well Given I feel terrible 99% of the time it gives me no end of a boost when someone tells me I look well. I would far rather be told I look well than told I look like sh!t
Besides I tell my non-MS friends they are looking well. “Hi, how are you, haven’t seen you for AGES! You’re looking well…”
Sometimes I think we get a bit hyper-sensitive and read far too much into people’s totally innocent and genuinely well meaning comments…
Cheers,
B
I’ve got very mixed feelings on this one.
Yes, it’s beats being told: “My God, you look like death, what happened?”
But I resent the implicit assumption that, because I’m ill, I should look rough. Lots and lots of illnesses don’t show on the outside. It’s so naive to say, in effect: “Oh, I see you’re still wearing lipstick! Glad you’re fine then”.
Tina
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I don’t advise people about my medical history as a rule, so they don’t know generally. If someone tells me I look well I just say ‘Thanks, so do you’.
Mark
I used to get mad at that, but now, I’m happy if I look well. I was in the hairdresser’s yesterday and started off the morning looking pretty healthy, as the morning went on, dark shadows formed under my eyes and I looked knackered after 2 hours. My hairdresser commented on this as well.
So now, I’m happy when I look well as it doesn’t take much to make me look exhausted. I’d like to find some sort of facial stuff that works to make me look better when that happens. Any suggestions will be gratefully received.
I’m coming over to the UK soon and my daughter has promised me a good long shopping session in Selfridges beauty/cosmetic department. Bliss!
really you should make the most of being told you look well, even though you dont feel it, i used to get told it all the time and it always pleased me, most of the time,i could be feeling really bad,at times too.
these days i look very,very ill,to the extent i hardly recognise myself in the mirror,i look all sunken eyed and beyond pale,and my eyes have no soul in them, anymore,
how i wish people would say ‘you look well’ those days are long gone…
jaki xx
LMAO!!! Yes, well, you do have a point there
Don’t take offence if I say I hope you look like sh ! t on your assessment day
B
Sorry if I annoyed anyone on here earlier. Just bit fed up with this disease and emotional today. And no I don’t actually lie in bed on a bad day cos I’ve got a 3 yr old and 7 yr old! Pat - good luck at ATOS assessment today. If I ever get as far as that with my claim for dla I’ll practice looking awful too! (I don’t qualify as the letter says I haven’t had both legs amputated and am not deaf and blind!!)
i know what you mean though,i used to get it a lot and it annoyed me.at the time,but oh how i wish i got it now lol…i used to look young for my age too,but now i look like my gran…
Hi, when I go out, I do my hair, make up, wear nice clothes,with matching jewellery. But in the mirror, I see this well turned out 60 year old, with very baggy eyes.
Even so, I am often told I look well. I always say thankyou and sometimes wonder if they think I have baggy eyes too.
Id never ask. I guess there arent many 60 year olds without baggy eyes…unless they`ve been at the botox!
luv Pollx
Thanks Poll. I suppose it’s because making the effort to look well and giving that appearance hides what’s going on in your head which maybe not so good. I really seemed to annoy people on here yesterday which was never my intention. I only annoyed and upset myself when reading some of the comments. I’m always polite and say thank you if someone tells me I look well. I was being bit hypersensitive yesterday about hearing it but today lo and behold ‘time of the month’ so I’ll blame that!! L xx
i had 3 reactions from my 2 brothers n sister, my sis says to take one day at a time, my bro said will i turn into a mong ( i hate that word) n my other bro said if i end up in a wheelchair then he’ll tie me to the back of his car n take me for a ride down the road lol, i told my bro that im not gona end up like that word n that its unpredictable n ill see what happens when it happens n that people who have ms dont all of a sudden cease living and stop doing things, we work round wats going on n try to do as much as we can, as its not going to stop us doing what we want as theres normally a way round it, so hes bin put right lol