Hello, im a 27 (28 on Monday and dreading it at the moment!) year old carer for my 52 year old mother who has secondary progressive MS. I’ve been her carer for the past 13 years nearly and I feel terrible for saying it but I don’t think I can do it any more. Recently she has been ill with inexplicable bouts of vomiting which no one seems to be taking seriously which has seemed to make all her MS symptoms worse.
we have careers coming in twice a day, but this isn’t enough and im struggling to cope, I believe strongly that we have reached the stage where she needs more care than I can provide for her and in a better environment. Our house has been slightly modified but it is still impossible for her to get around it and the OT that came out a couple of weeks ago basically said that there wasn’t much else they could put in place for her to make it easier. I genuinely feel she would be better off in some kind of maybe care home or sheltered accommodation that was better suited for her needs and with more carers coming in because I’m struggling with my own issues (severe depression & anxiety) and I just can’t do it any more.
i don’t know what my options are really, there is so much information online but it’s all just getting confused in my head and I don’t know what else to do any more. I feel terrible for saying that I can’t do it any more but I’ve been doing this for nearly 13 years and I basically have no life of my own any more.
im sorry if this doesn’t make much sense but it’s hard to put it all down in words.
can anyone help?
lauren