Hi again Michelle, I think your breathing problem might be anxiety.
Many years ago (actually 40 years ago!) I suffered anxiety and panic attacks. A lot of it centred on my breathing. I never felt like I could get enough breath in my body and sometimes it seemed that if I stopped concentrating on my breath I might stop breathing altogether.
This would cause me to start hyperventilating… which basically means that you are breathing too quickly into the upper part of your lungs which then floods the body with oxygen… which then makes you feel very light-headed and strange… which then increases the feeling of panic. It’s a real Catch 22 situation.
Of course it wouldn’t be at all surprising if you were suffering from anxiety given what you are having to deal with.
There are some excellent drugs available now for anxiety and panic (40 years ago I was offered electric shock treatment which I refused!). Or, if you don’t want to take drugs, there is counselling which your GP could refer your for to help you cope with the anxiety and control the ‘over breathing’.
I think you should look into it. I know when I had it my life was like a living hell. It was like my breathing dominated my life.
Hope this helps… food for thought?