Hope you are beginning to shake off the memories, CP. Experiences like that tend to make you so fretful about your bodily processes, and to worry if things don’t happen as and when anticipated, because you dread a repetition of those nightmarish times. At least you are home now- rest up, mate.
I had a similar though not as horrendous time of it when I had 8 weeks in hospital a while back. My bowels are managed on a precise formula of daily Laxido and the use of a glycerin suppository when I want to go, which seems to be best regulated at every 36 hours, sometimes sooner. This precarious balance was shot to bits in hospital. I then went for a week without going, and after I finally did go I over-compensated and was taking a larger Movicol dose, and ended up being incontinent for several weeks. I also got into a urine retention state and had to have a permanent catheter for 5 days.
The problem was partly that I couldn’t get to the loo, and that the nurses were very cagy about allowing me suppositories, let alone apply them myself. In the end I just wore pads and soiled myself. One of the nurses asked me why I was so incontinent and was I always like this at home; I told it it was they wouldn’t trust me to regulate things my own way.