Thanks for the suggestions. When I said student accommodation, I meant that I am in a student share house - I am no longer a student (due to the MS last year), so the uni can’t help. I agree with you all that by in large I should just walk away from what’s in there. But there are some important things that have to be found like all my exam certificates that seem to have gone walk about, and my mortgage and property documents etc… Also, my piano is there which I definately want (couldn’t take it to uni with me!!) and a couple of things like that. So it comes back to being able to get to anything and find anything in his sodding death trap (and being up to doing so, not to mention having the time). As said, I can’t afford a man in a van - I can bearly make ends meet. And I have very few close friends - most were uni friends which have drifted away now I’m no longer there. The one friend that I’m still close to is also moving away, the week before / 2 weeks before I’m due to move!! She did (really very kindly) say that she’s come back if she could for that weekend, but she didn’t know her plans yet (and she’s moving 400 miles, so that’d be one hell of a trip!!).
On the positive side, I rang my sister and kinda told her flat that someone had to give me some help, and for once I must of gotten her in a good mood since she said she would do. So that at least sorts the smaller things out, and anything that I have where I’m living now. She has a key to my dads, so it may be that we’ll wait to he’s gone and sort through things at his then. She said we just wouldn’t tell him (he’ll do the ‘I’m locking the place up’ thing again, so anything that hasn’t been moved now, it’s just tough). He’s basically said he’ll just throw my stuff if I don’t shift it (said this about my sister’s stuff too, she has some things left there), that it’s not his problem.
But apart from the big things like my piano (not an essential item), it may work out if she comes through, though she’s as busy and broke as me. I already have my white goods at the place I’m going to (fridgefreezer, washerdryer, cooker etc…) so don’t need to bring any of them. But I will need a sofa (will have to buy), and my bed is at my dads (although I’m thinking of getting new).
Noreen - As for how he’s moving his things 400 miles (yes he’s moving some distance away - happy days - had a friend buy the place for him in the end! Yes it’s as crazy as it sounds.), I’ve got no blooming idea and care even less (though for the amusement factor, I can’t wait to see how it all unfolds - he has a major problem with responsibility and therefore with doing anything for himself). It’s what makes me think he’ll still be here, because he’s not even started packing, plus the state of the place, and the fact that he’s not even thought about how he’s going to get anything up there. What’s crazier, and extremely sad, is that I’m scared he’s going to throw out important things that belonged to my mum (who died 3 years ago) as he doesn’t look or think what he’s doing. He threw out her rings (including her wedding ring) by mistake just after she died because of that. And my sister’s taken a load of really special stuff of my mum’s for safe keeping that he didn’t even know existed!!! He’s a nutter.
Carole - you made me laugh!! Super hoarders, nope never heard of it. But I reckon that by the time my dad + family in general had finished with the Psychologist, they’d be needing one themselves!!! And yes, it’s emotional blackmail. But they’re family, and it’s hard to walk away from them.
SJ - thanks for the info re the Salvation Army. I may see if they can help with stuff from my dads place to mine (the bigger things). At least I may have a bit more time to move those bits now.
Take Care all,