My mother has been suffering from MS for a number of years but her condition has deteriorated markedly since the death of my father a year ago.
She was recently seen by a MDT but has since been discharged and whilst some good has come of her being seen by the team (adjustments to her house etc) she’s in as a bad a way as she was when she was first referred to them. She hardly leaves the house, doesn’t exercise, doesn’t eat properly and drinks too much.
If myself or another family member ever tries to speak to her about this she will start to cry and say that we don’t understand how terrible her life is because of the death of my father and her illness and she will start saying very nasty things about us. She has always been a very hard woman to get along with - she is an incredibly negative person who never sees the good in people and spends most of her time talking about depressing subjects. If she had suddenly become like this since the death of my father I guess it would be easier to deal with but she has been like this for as long as I can remember and her attitude was the primary reason for me leaving the family home.
She has no respect for any of the professionals she has encountered in relation to her MS or bereavement, belittling them to us and criticising them for being too young/too stupid/too anything but helpful. We are really struggling to see a way to help her and her behaviour is pushing people who care about her away, so if anyone has any suggestions about the best way forward they would be gratefully appreciated because, at the moment, the future is looking pretty bleak.