My son Callum who is 4 has always been mature for his age and between me splitting with his dad and becoming ill I feel guilty but kids are resiliant and surprise you. We’re going to go to a hotel get a room and go to the cinema in Aberdeen. I live an hour from civilization lol (not quite that bad) I told him we were going to Aberdeen. His reply why can’t we go to aviemore. I was like oh no here we go as we’d a holiday home there before. So a deep breathe no Callum we can’t go and you know why. Waiting for the comeback I steeled myself. He turned round and said well I was thinking mum we can book a hotel, do some fun things, but you can maybe find another doctor there. Well the doctors in Aberdeen and broch (local term for fraserburgh) so we can see one there they might be able tl work better. I was so close to tears not that he’d have know, kiss, cuddles and tickles worked great. Then again he said to mum the other day when is mum getting a boyfriend. Mum got such a surprise and wAs like oh I don’t think your mums ready. For her to be told well dad doesn’t live with us anymore so it’s cool. And he certainly hasn’t heard anything from me. Not everyone will agree but I don’t believe in taking home a string of bfs, would have to Be very sure before they meet a kid Ex
Dear Ex, your post touched me, as both my daughters have gone through divorces when they had (and still do) young children.
The little ones understand and take in more than we give them credit for.
Two of my grandchildren are going through very difficult times just now, being torn between mum and dad. I am heart broken by this.
Your little fella sounds wonderful. Cherish and treasure him…as if you need telling, eh?
luv Grandma Pollyxx
Hi E What’s a little sweetheart you have! Kids know when to make mummy feel special. I split up with my sons dad when he was 1 and now he’s at 8. It took me a few years to get myself sorted motherhood was still fairly new to me. I met my fiancé when my son was four. It took me several month before I allowed them to meet as like you I didn’t want my son meeting another man until I knew it was the real deal. You will know who that is when the times right until then you have one very special little guy in your life. Polly x
Hi Em
That really touched me when I read your post, I feel guilt over the ms and my kids and your right they are resillient and sometimes those special words or big hug really make your day,your obviously a good mum
Cheryl xx
I’m very lucky with him though this new found teenage attitude can disappear anytime it likes. iPad confiscation will sort that out. I’m knackered with him suppose he’s good for my brain. I think I’ll be on mastermind on the ocean he’s fascinated. I have to read enclyclopaedia of the ocean to him and go through all his sharks. He found google maps the other day And was like this is where we live so where does granda go fishing. His nursery teacher said she’s kept on her toes he tells her stuff then she googled it so she can speak to him about it But things are improving in that I don’t care how sore I am I just keep going because if I sit down between 3 and 5 I would sleep but if I don’t sit I’m fine. I may have little seats. But more exciting I’ve had my daughter down every day for the last week pretty much all day by myself. It’s been good fun and keeps my brain occupied. She’s a little monkey she is so rough for a girl, the more u bounce her the more she laughs. This week if she hasn’t been getting what she wants she slaps and that is not on. Wouldn’t be so bad she looks you right in the eye and does it so she got a firm telling off, her face was priceless not that she knew that she started sniffing then cried but tickling made up for it. After her bath the other night to give me time to recover her brother has a little leather arm charm aimed at toddlers young kids so she sat on there and got her hair blow dried. After I’d finished she kept rubbing her hands through her hair. She goes from being rough to so girl lol though that would have been me one minute up a tree to 10 minutes later sitting in curlers putting on a dress. So the view is she’ll start sleeping here soon.
Morning all, nice and sunny here in Buckinghamshire! I have fallen a couple of times whilst with my 5yr old granddaughter, by coincidence both times in a car park. We were out last week when she took hold of my hand and informed me, ‘I am going to hold your hand in the car park granny, to stop you from falling over’ Doesn’t you heart just melt? Have a lovely day, Sue x
Hi E That’s brilliant that your little will start to stay with you soon. She sounds like a right little character! Sue that’s so lovely that you granddaughter wants to take care of you, kids are just the sweetest, it did melt my heart. Polly x
Sue that is so cute. Polly I’m thinking madam at the moment rather than character but a smile and a giggle it’s all better lol